Lustful Glances and Illicit Relationships
In this day an age, the temptation towards to opposite gender isextremely severe, particularly for those people treading the path ofpiety. Shaytaan traps the nafs quickly in this temptation because theapparent hindrances seem less. He makes one guilty of casting lustfulglances towards non-mahrams (any person of the opposite gender withwhom marriage is permissible).
Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (RA) writes:
1. The harms and calamities caused by having any kind of relationshipwith non-mahrams whether by looking at them, speaking to them to sootheoneself, or sitting by them in solitude or by beautifying one's clothesto please or to speak gently with them are so serious that I cannot penthem down.
2. Illicit relationships are a form of 'azaab-e-Ilaahi (DivinePunishment). Just as a person will be restless in hell-he will neitherdie nor live, similarly, after casting lustful glances, a personbecomes involved in illicit fascinations and becomes restless anduneasy. He is completely deprived of a peaceful sleep. Both his secularand religious life is destroyed. Eventually he is admitted to anasylum. Today a large percentage of mental hospital patients are thosewho became insane after watching videos, movies, television, andreading lewd novels, etc...
3. After casting lustful glances and having evil thoughts, if theconsequence is the act of sin, then both the participants becomeeternally despised. They will not even be able to look at each other inthe eye. Just as a kind father wants his son to live a life of respectand not be involved in any despicable sin, likewise Allah's infinitemercy also requires that His servants do not become immersed in anydetested act and disgrace themselves. They should live a life of piety,respect, contentment with halal, and patience in abstaining from haram.The people of this world cool their eyes with worldly pleasures whilethe special servants of Allah cool their eyes with the worship and zikror Allah, which is everlasting and eternal. Worldly pleasures areenveloped by thousands of calamities and are temporal.
Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi WA Sallam) has cursed the one who castsevil glances and the one who is looked at by invoking the curse ofAllah upon these people. People who fear the curse of the piousAuliyaa' should be more afraid of the curse of Allah's messenger(Sallallahu Alaihi WA Sallam). May Allah protect us.
The temporal beauty that will only last a few days makes one go insane.After a few days, the contours of the face change and the featuresbecome unattractive in old age. How many youth have destroyed theirlives due to this fatal illness!
Allah is fully aware of those who cast evil glances as is clearlystated in the Quran. Allah knows very well the doings of your eyes. Whydid Allah express the act of casting evil glances with the word"San'at" (to make) in Surah Al-Mu'minun? The reason is that the one whocasts lustful glances makes different images and pictures of the objectof his desire in his mind. Sometimes he kisses in his imagination, atother times he embraces, and so on. Therefore, Allah mentioned that Heis fully aware of all these different acts. Allamah Aalusi (RA)explains in his tafseer Ruh-ul-M'aani under four headings:
a) Allah is aware of how you maneuver your gaze and look with lustful eyes.
b) The one who casts evil glances uses all five senses. Allah is awareof all this. Allah is watching the use of his senses, in smelling,hearing and looking etc...
c) Allah is fully aware of the movements of all the limbs. Allah iswatching how he uses his limbs to obtain and fulfill his desires.
d) Allah is aware of his final aim, which is adultery or fornication.This informative sentence has a threat concealed within it, that is, hewill be punished severely.
I have come across many victims of evil glances and fantasizingthroughout my life and all of them admitted that their lives werebitter, they lost sleep, they were anxious and uneasy, they weresuicidal, their health deteriorated, their hearts were full of fear,they became physically and mentally weak. I always believed that theseare various forms of punishment from Allah for this fascination andhanding over one's heart to anything or anyone other than Allah.
The attractive people that are walking around today on earth will oneday be reduced to dirt in the grave. After their death, if you happento open their graves, you will only find dirt. One might ask, "Whereare the rosy cheeks, the red lips, the flowing hair, and the softskin?" In the grave, it will all be the same. None of the body partscan be distinguished. Allah has placed beauty on in this "dirt" to seewho will die for this temporal beauty and who will sacrifice their lifefor Allah and His messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam). Had thisglitter and glamor not been placed in this "dirt" then what test wouldthere have been? Therefore, do not be deceived by this glamor.
-Bad Nigaahi Wa 'Ishq-e-Majaazi ke Tabaah Kaariyaan Aur Unka 'Ilaaj
(Evil Glances and Illicit Love: Harms and Cure)
http://annoor.wordpress.com/2007/05/01/lustful-glances-and-fascinations/
In this day an age, the temptation towards to opposite gender isextremely severe, particularly for those people treading the path ofpiety. Shaytaan traps the nafs quickly in this temptation because theapparent hindrances seem less. He makes one guilty of casting lustfulglances towards non-mahrams (any person of the opposite gender withwhom marriage is permissible).
Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (RA) writes:
1. The harms and calamities caused by having any kind of relationshipwith non-mahrams whether by looking at them, speaking to them to sootheoneself, or sitting by them in solitude or by beautifying one's clothesto please or to speak gently with them are so serious that I cannot penthem down.
2. Illicit relationships are a form of 'azaab-e-Ilaahi (DivinePunishment). Just as a person will be restless in hell-he will neitherdie nor live, similarly, after casting lustful glances, a personbecomes involved in illicit fascinations and becomes restless anduneasy. He is completely deprived of a peaceful sleep. Both his secularand religious life is destroyed. Eventually he is admitted to anasylum. Today a large percentage of mental hospital patients are thosewho became insane after watching videos, movies, television, andreading lewd novels, etc...
3. After casting lustful glances and having evil thoughts, if theconsequence is the act of sin, then both the participants becomeeternally despised. They will not even be able to look at each other inthe eye. Just as a kind father wants his son to live a life of respectand not be involved in any despicable sin, likewise Allah's infinitemercy also requires that His servants do not become immersed in anydetested act and disgrace themselves. They should live a life of piety,respect, contentment with halal, and patience in abstaining from haram.The people of this world cool their eyes with worldly pleasures whilethe special servants of Allah cool their eyes with the worship and zikror Allah, which is everlasting and eternal. Worldly pleasures areenveloped by thousands of calamities and are temporal.
Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi WA Sallam) has cursed the one who castsevil glances and the one who is looked at by invoking the curse ofAllah upon these people. People who fear the curse of the piousAuliyaa' should be more afraid of the curse of Allah's messenger(Sallallahu Alaihi WA Sallam). May Allah protect us.
The temporal beauty that will only last a few days makes one go insane.After a few days, the contours of the face change and the featuresbecome unattractive in old age. How many youth have destroyed theirlives due to this fatal illness!
Allah is fully aware of those who cast evil glances as is clearlystated in the Quran. Allah knows very well the doings of your eyes. Whydid Allah express the act of casting evil glances with the word"San'at" (to make) in Surah Al-Mu'minun? The reason is that the one whocasts lustful glances makes different images and pictures of the objectof his desire in his mind. Sometimes he kisses in his imagination, atother times he embraces, and so on. Therefore, Allah mentioned that Heis fully aware of all these different acts. Allamah Aalusi (RA)explains in his tafseer Ruh-ul-M'aani under four headings:
a) Allah is aware of how you maneuver your gaze and look with lustful eyes.
b) The one who casts evil glances uses all five senses. Allah is awareof all this. Allah is watching the use of his senses, in smelling,hearing and looking etc...
c) Allah is fully aware of the movements of all the limbs. Allah iswatching how he uses his limbs to obtain and fulfill his desires.
d) Allah is aware of his final aim, which is adultery or fornication.This informative sentence has a threat concealed within it, that is, hewill be punished severely.
I have come across many victims of evil glances and fantasizingthroughout my life and all of them admitted that their lives werebitter, they lost sleep, they were anxious and uneasy, they weresuicidal, their health deteriorated, their hearts were full of fear,they became physically and mentally weak. I always believed that theseare various forms of punishment from Allah for this fascination andhanding over one's heart to anything or anyone other than Allah.
The attractive people that are walking around today on earth will oneday be reduced to dirt in the grave. After their death, if you happento open their graves, you will only find dirt. One might ask, "Whereare the rosy cheeks, the red lips, the flowing hair, and the softskin?" In the grave, it will all be the same. None of the body partscan be distinguished. Allah has placed beauty on in this "dirt" to seewho will die for this temporal beauty and who will sacrifice their lifefor Allah and His messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam). Had thisglitter and glamor not been placed in this "dirt" then what test wouldthere have been? Therefore, do not be deceived by this glamor.
-Bad Nigaahi Wa 'Ishq-e-Majaazi ke Tabaah Kaariyaan Aur Unka 'Ilaaj
(Evil Glances and Illicit Love: Harms and Cure)
http://annoor.wordpress.com/2007/05/01/lustful-glances-and-fascinations/
