Naseehat for barren couples
ShaykhAshraf Ali Thanwi (RA) narrates, "My tutor Shaykh Sayyed Ahmad Dehlwi(RA) once observed his uncle, another scholar, sitting despondently. Upon query, he replied, 'Old age has arrived and I still have no children'.
My tutor commented, 'Subh?n'Allah! Is this a matter of sorrow or happiness?'
Uncle replied, 'How may it be a means of happiness?'
ShaykhSayyed Dehlwi (RA) commented, 'It is indeed a cause of happiness;because in your lineage you were the intended person; all yourforefathers were the means; in contrast to those with children; theywere not the intended ones; they were created for sorrow.
Observehow cereal seeds are of two kinds; one which is used for eating; theother for replanting. The intention is to eat? therefore the seed whichis eaten is superior. Similarly, those who have no children, from thetime of Prophet Adam (AS) to their parents, all their forefathers weremeans to their final existence? just like the seeds replanted for finalfruition'"
Althoughthis is a philosophical approach, nevertheless it is the way couplesshould overcome their sorrow. Moreover, should grief still remain, thenjust observe the behaviour of the majority of children of this era.They are a medium of worry and unhappiness for their parents. Shouldeven this reasoning fail to soothe one's conscience, then accept thefact that whatever Allah (SWT) has decreed is best for us. And, shouldyou be unable to do this? then at the very least, appreciate that yourwife has done no wrong. Why blame her?
Subh?n'Allah, this is one of the most precious books you could ever own...but as with all books, its value is only manifested when it is read andacted upon. May Allah give us the strength of will and tawfeeq to actupon his wise and benevolent ahkaam. Aameen.
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