Psychology Of Attention Seekers.

Donald Trump & his Mother

www.theguardian.com/us-news/2018/sep/29/trump-on-the-couc...

It all begins with the mother.

This is the opening line of Dr Justin Frank’s book, Trump on the Couch, “a deep dive into the psyche” of the 45th US president which argues that a distant mother and authoritarian father are key to understanding how Donald Trump became Donald Trump: infantile, impulsive and ill-suited for office.

“Yes, we should be scared,” Frank, a clinical professor of psychiatry at George Washington University, told the Guardian. “We have to accept that he is the president and we also have to accept that he’s never going to change because he can’t. Once we accept those things, we can then figure out what to do with our fears.”

For Frank, the dynamic between infant and mother has a profound influence on a person’s psychological outlook and health. Trump’s mother was Mary Anne MacLeod, who arrived in New York from the Outer Hebridean island of Lewis in 1930. After six years as a domestic worker and nanny, she married the property developer Fred Trump and they had five children.

The otherwise garrulous president has said little about his mother. Notably, for his first few months in the Oval Office, the only photo behind his desk was of his father. His mother was added later. Yet, Frank points out, 72-year-old Trump’s gravity-defying hair is a very deliberate homage to his mum’s.

“The fact that he tries to get us to feel his anxiety and he externalises responsibility makes me feel that, as a young child, he did not feel contained or held by his mother or other caretakers,” he says. “He didn’t have a strong maternal force in his life.

“The one thing we do know biographically is that when he was two, the last child in the family was born, but when his mother went to the hospital she didn’t come home right away. She had a haemorrhage, she had four surgeries and came close to dying and there was virtually no talk about that in the family. His older siblings just went to school as if it were normal while they’re terribly worried about their mother.”

His mother’s frequent absences, Frank suggests, left Trump devoid of empathy.

Because it is the way of the Akabir of Deoband to fight Fitnah at every level, every platform. A (popular) narcissist has the ability to affect people and impact their Eemaan so we will not let the Jaahil alone to spread his/her Fasad. In the process, we will get targetted and slandered but BY ALLAH we will not remain idle if someone is spreading Fitnah & Fasad.

It is the way of the Deobandees to merely worship their Hazrat and ignore everyone else.

Respectfully disagree.

It is my opinion for decades that people following the Sunnah need to build capabilities which are professional, slick and easy accessible. Social Media is not a vacuum, it is a popularity contest.

You don’t need to go after someone and get blocked, you just need to create delivery points which are popular to attract the right opinion.

If you carefully analyse the pattern of Dawah of prophets in the Qur’aan it is always positive. You keep being positive until the day comes that you have enough of capacity to confront. The confrontation should not be initial.

The cessation of “Deobandees” in America is a case in point, they are rudderless, directionless and have literally no following WHILE others have forged ahead. Since this happened right in lifetime, I have witnessed it and you are watching the results play out in the activist space. You can dismiss “Linda Sarsour” and others but there is no doubt that people like her are able to get eyeballs.
 

The solution is in the post, to be clear in terms of Social media...

Create well run Social Media commentary Accounts (YouTube, Twitter, Facebook) accounts which handle contemporary events so Muslims do not have to resort to those (who are popular) yet farther from the Sunnah.

Instead, "Deobandees" restrict themselves to WhatsApp groups which are joined by like-minded people and Social Media Accouts shy away from contemporary issues.

There are problems in India (right now) so no amount of Ulama not addressing will change the ground reality. Muslims will inevitably seek out people who are talking about these issues and this is where Narcissists come into the picture, google will automatically rank Accounts based on popularity.