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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 27th December 2019 20:29

Psychology Behind Attention Seeking Behavior in Adults

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We come across attention seekers quite often. They come with a reservoir of drama and conflict. But it has become imperative, in this day and age, to understand the psychology of these attention seekers. We need to identify their motivations, the underlying driving force that persuades them to act that way. For that, we need to dive deep into the very subconscious mind of these people and bring out the hidden contributing factors.

So what exactly is Attention Seeking Behavior ?


It is defined as the act of seeking recognition and the subconscious attempt of becoming the center of attraction in social gatherings.

Let us now look at the psychology behind attention seeking behavior in adults

1. Hysteria
Suppose you’re having a seemingly decent conversation with one of them. As of yet, you don’t know whether the person you’re interacting with is an attention seeker or not. All of a sudden, you find them burst with emotions. It can be excitement, anger, or sense of immense disturbance. You start wondering what could have possibly gone wrong. If you could find no practical reason, know this, that he/she is an attention seeker. It is characteristic of every attention seeker to come up with emotional outbursts for no reason at all. It is usually referred to as Histronic Personality Disorder.

2. Playing The Victim
But it doesn’t stop there. They’ll behave as if they’re victims of emotional exploitation. Though you’ve done absolutely nothing to cause the trauma, they however, like to play the blame game. You’ll start feeling uncomfortable, but that won’t deter them from continuing their drama. They have absolutely no regard for social order and peace and would leave no stone unturned in playing a poor victim who has been traumatized by the person they’re interacting with. All this for a speck of attention.

3. Being The Indispensable
Sometimes, people become so close to you that you cannot think of a day without having to meet or talk to them. And if that someone happens to be an attention seeker, you’re in for some serious drama. You’ll find them forcibly inserting themselves into your daily routine. Not only that, they’ll make sure that you end up texting or calling them as many times as possible. Subconsciously, they want you to be totally dependent on them. They want to be your messiah in your times of need. They’ll try to gain a position, where you’ll end up begging for help in tough times. This is how, they’ll gain an upper hand on you, thus making you their emotional slave.

4. Pretending To Be Ill
This is one of the best psychological tricks employed by an attention seeker. You’ll find them claiming to be ill, even when they are at the peak of their health. It is much like a madman claiming the weather to be cloudy even if it’s a bright sunny day. They act this way to gain sympathy. So that people start to take out some time and give all of their attention to them. Attention seekers are very good with acting. They’ll never let you see their real face. You’ll never know if that person is really ill, or just pretending to be. The main goal here is to get sympathetic attention from the close ones, and if possible, from strangers as well.

5. Acting Busy
As mentioned earlier, attention seekers behave as if the world revolves around them. But sometimes, they’ll also use means that are far less direct than the ones they normally employ. One of the best ways is to act busy. Yes, this is a passive way that transmits signals conveying that they’re important as a professional and have no time for people. This is done so that people start to admire their hard work and frequently connect with them as if they’re very important figures in the society. Showing people that you’re engaged and seldom have spare time indirectly lures people, as they start believing in your false status and start being around you to get even a molecule of attention.

Common Reasons Behind Such Behaviors


1. Social Media Usage
We live in an era of social media. A time when the digital platform is booming at an exponential rate. The social media revolution has brought about tremendous changes in the mindset of people. Since social media platforms generate the feeling recognition and fame, it automatically develops the desire for attention. Chronic usage can turn a person form a social animal to a voracious seeker for attention.

*Source The Minds Journal

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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 27th December 2019 22:25
A narcissist :)

Unfortunately, came across such people.

Personally, I found that honesty and sabr beats them each time. Although it can be difficult but perseverance is the best way.

I found that honesty was required to clear any misconceptions but sabr was golden.

I also found that reciting astagfirullah regularly helped out in overcoming any hurdles and one issue at a time is resolved.

For ongoing people, well you have to pay to Allah to make you one of those with sabr.

As mentioned before, according to the Hadith, to have patience, you need to want it.

Those who have it, Alhumdulillah, those who don't, seek it!
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 27th December 2019 22:43
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Sabr and Silence probably the best way to deal with such individuals.

We have all come across such individuals, whether in real life or the internet.

Their desperate desire for attention and recognition ,is such that they will lie, cheat, deceive and manipulate others in order to receive it. Not caring who or what they trample over in order to get it.

The Attention is like fuel for them. Ignore them and you starve them of the oxygen. That is needed to ignite the fire of mischief.

And they will inevitably disappear, taking their drama with them.

Or as a quote attributed Hazrat Ali ibn Abi Talib ( May Allah Pleased with Him) states: " Silence is the best reply to a fool."
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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 27th December 2019 23:42
Silence comes with the sabr
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#5 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 01:10
Ikhlas suppresses all the fitnas.
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#6 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 01:41
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The statement of ali رضي الله عنه i believe is from a shia source. you may wish to double check this
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#7 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 02:24
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The website I got it from sourced it from a Barelvi group on Yahoo.

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#8 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 02:58
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And sabr comes with what?
Practice...?
Innerpeace...?
Or something else...?
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#9 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 03:13
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#10 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 07:40
Sabr..... patience when something we feel illogical is posted on social media.

When we expect logical, authentic and academic posts only; then there will be no posts on forum. Reduced visits on forum, no likes or winner tags to boost us to get energised. Forum will go to coma.
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#11 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 08:47
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اللهم اجعلني شكورا واجعلني صبورا واجعلني في عيني صغيرا وفي أعين الناس كبيرا.

O Allah! Make me one who is most patient and grateful; and make me small in my own eyes but great in the eyes of others. (Hisn-e-Haseen)
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#12 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 10:40
Attention seeking usually has a reason behind it. The few people (mostly young but also one older lady) I have come across seem to have problems...mostly at home with parents or with spouse. They laugh a lot and make others luagh but behind the laughter i feel there is pain, uncertainty and seems like they are crying out to be loved, accepted, respected.
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#13 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 10:50
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#14 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 11:33
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Sabr is ‘restraint’...

Sabr is withholding one’s self from sins

Sabr is being ‘steadfast’

Sabr is to remain calm when things go wrong

One has to persistently practice, to become patient
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#15 [Permalink] Posted on 28th December 2019 11:52
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So how to gain all this. Do you have a master plan for that?
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