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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 18th October 2014 19:13
Training children
  
If your child requests something that you know you will give him if he persists in asking for it, then give it at the very first request. Do not let your child force you into giving it through crying or making a fuss.

If the request is one which you do not intend ever to fulfil, due to its detrimental nature, then do not give in, even if the child makes a fuss. In this way you will nurture your children to understand that making a fuss is not going to force you to give in. if you do not take care in this matter, you will spoil the character of your children.

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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 19th October 2014 10:45
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Do we Ever?

“When our children disobey Allah ta’ala do we feel any sorrow or grief?  When our children neglect Salaah, the most important act of worship, do we ever experience any concern?

When our children underperform in school we lose sleep, yet do we ever experience even the slightest discomfort upon seeing our children openly violate the commands of Allah?”

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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 28th October 2014 17:58
Be Vigilant

“We should monitor where and with whom our children spend their time and also assess what proportion of their time is being spent where.

Most of the quality time of our children is spent at school, with friends, in the park, at other people’s homes, watching the television or surfing the internet.

We need to be alert and vigilant, for the environment has become such that children will get caught up in many evil habits without the parents having even the slightest idea of what is going on.”

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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 25th November 2014 09:41
Core Failure

“The core failure in the upbringing of our children is that we have no worry or concern for our children’s religious future. In reality we only have three major concerns: The first is their physical wellbeing, the second is their financial wellbeing and the third is their obedience to us.

If our children are obedient to us, we remain happy with them and also praise them. However, if these same children miss Salaah, go to the cinema or spend hours upon hours watching videos at home, then we are not in the least concerned. Our only concern is that our children should do whatever we say. If that aspect is ok, we turn a blind eye to all the sins they indulge in.”

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