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A Garment Unto Each Other

1st May 2013

هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ

"They are a garment unto you and you are a garment unto them" (Part of verse 187 Suratul Baqarah)

This verse seems light as one skims through it but there is a lot of depth in it. Mufti Ismail Menk Sahib explains how beautiful the example of clothing is in this verse!

Clothing Beautifies a Person
This is the first quality of the spouse. We wear clothing which beautify us. We do not wear clothing of disgrace. Similarly one's spouse beautifies you by presenting a good image of you.

Clothing Changes with the Changing of the Season
One wears clothes according to the season so that one is protected from the outside environment . In the winter one will wear warm, protective clothing while in the summer one will wear cool comfortable clothes. If one was to wear warm clothing in the hot weather one will be most uncomfortable. Similarly one's spouse should be a means of protection from the outside environment. Our beloved Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam, upon receiving the Revelation, felt heavy and fearful. He went straight to his wife Khadeejah RA and said "Zammiloonee, zammiloonee" (cover me, cover me). Immediately she comforted him to the highest degree and allayed his fears with encouraging words. This providing of comfort is also "clothing".

Clothing Covers up Scars
One's clothes covers up any scars (of operations) or other deficiencies. Clothing covers up one's shame i.e. the private parts. Similarly one's spouse covers up one's faults and not expose them. A husband and wife should cover up the negative aspects of each other. One does know these negative aspects however they should not be exposed in public i.e. do not "wash your linen in public".

Clothing are bought According to One's means
When buying clothes one will shop at places where it fits the pockets. Similarly when looking for a spouse look for someone on your level. A marriage will not work if a spouse is too expensive to look after.

Clothing are Bought According to One's Size
Clothing is bought according to one's size. A pair of trousers which are a couple of sizes too big will have to be tied by a belt otherwise will cause embarrassment and similarly something which is a few sizes too small may look good but when worn, it will rip. For one who is a size 10, a size 6 will be of no benefit and one who buys a 38 waist whereas he is a 32 waist will be embarrassed.

The Hadith too teaches us to look for someone on the same social standing i.e. similar likes and dislikes and the same spiritual level. So if someone is not on your level of spirituality or the same social level it might look good but as soon as you marry the tears will appear and the marriage will be lost.

How beautiful is the example of clothing in this verse! It teaches how to choose a spouse and how to live in harmony with the spouse.
posted by ummi taalib on 1st May 2013 - 0 comments


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