Sayyidina Abdullah Ibn Masood (RA) narrates that the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said: Among the words of the earlier Prophets that still remain with people are: If you feel no shame, then do as you wish. [Bukhari]
Recent events in UK where certain fractions are trying to impose Modernism & Enlightenment upon Muslims are deeply distressing to anyone who loves the Sunnah of Sayyidina Rasul-ullah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam).
Haya & Modesty are interwoven into the fabric of every believing man and woman and all of us desire to be adorned from this noble characteristic of the Prophets. It equally applies to believing man and woman and we are supposed to abstain from licentious contact, illicit glances, unregulated exchanges of emails, tweets, facebook encounters, flirtatious open and public exchanges on Islamic forums and most certainly PMs.
Our dealings with members of the opposite gender should be based on a matter of fact basis and when online without undue insertions of smiley faces and lol and may Allah (SWT) give us the ability to make Taubah when we cross the line and reward those who chastise us when we cross the line of decency, Haya & Modesty.
I made a mistake on Sunniforum when dealing with a particular Sister and I was banned (rightly so), however the Ameer (Mufti Hussain Kadodia) & a particular brother (user London786) approached me privately and publicly denounced my behaviour and since then these two carry special love in my heart because their relationship didnt deter them from voicing their utter disgust at my behaviour. I know what I did and I have my reasons but my actions did exaggerate the limits of Haya & Modesty and for that I should be rightly chastised publicly because my behaviour was in public and thats how beautiful and blessed our Shariah is (Alhumdolillah). The two blessed brothers went a step further while others simply winced and muttered beneath their breath.
I honestly and genuinely believe that with technical advancements the opportunities for unregulated contact between members of opposite gender are growing and many of our sincere brothers and sisters want to tear down the natural barriers of Haya & Modesty which Allah (SWT) has placed within our nature (Fitrah) and we must resist their efforts, counter their opinions and even forcefully at times before the flood of immodesty sweeps us and our generations aside.
During the compilation of the article I shared many thoughts with Shaykh Muhammad Daniels and concerned brothers and unfortunately we both had to watch examples of laughing, giggling, flirtatious believing men and women gives Islamic discourses and advise to each other and we are simply D-I-S-G-U-S-T-E-D at this behaviour!
A believing Muslim man should NOT respond to a post on a forum in such a situation.
A believing Muslim man should NOT respond to an email in such a situation.
A believing Muslim man should NOT respond to a (SMS) text message in such a situation.
A believing Muslim man should NOT accept a friend request on face book in such a situation.
So if your friend is stepping out of line (in real life or online) then be a real friend and encourage them to adopt the noble Sunnah of Sayyidina Rasul-ullah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) and adopt the noble prophetic qualities of Haya & Modesty and if your friend steps out of line and starts giving Dawah towards the shameful traits of immodesty then Join the noble Ulamah and those who denounce this D-I-S-E-A-S-E and ensure that our families, Mosques and communities and protected against it.
Those who have made mistakes in the past know that Allah (SWT) is the Most Merciful of those who show Mercy so turn to Allah (SWT) in earnest sincerity and devotion and make dua for Allah (SWT) to take away the robe of Shaytaan (immodesty) and adorn you with the qualities of prophethood (Haya & Modesty) and may Allah (SWT) make it so for me, my family, friends and for the whole Ummah (Ameen).