10
Nov
2012

Racism and our daughter!

10th November 2012
Asslamo Allaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,

We (Muslims) pride ourselves on the noble and beloved teachings of our Nabi (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) and rightly so. No other prophet was so blessed and so dear to Allah (SWT) let alone another ordinary man.

The revelations on our dear and beloved Nabi (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) revolutionised the globe, purged the hearts of those who accepted him and turned them (Sahaba) into the greatest characters mankind has ever witnessed. We (Ahlus-Sunnah Wal-Jamaah) consider the noble Sahaba the best of mankind after the prophets and by Allah (SWT) the Sahaba of Nabi (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) deserve our respect. Let me repeat, we don’t love the Sahaba because we are required to, rather we genuinely love, adore and admire Sayyidina Abu Bakr (RA), Sayyidina Umar (RA), Sayyidina Usman (RA), Sayyidina Ali (RA) and every single one of them who had the greatest fortunate of spending even a moment with the beloved of Allah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam).

How we would love to sacrifice everything in our possession just to cast a gaze at the noble face of beloved of Allah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam)? And Sayyidina Abu Bakr (RA) was his friend, confidant, companion and father-in-law! Close your eyes and just imagine the blessed Majlis of the Sahaba (RA) seated around the beloved of Allah (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) in the Masjidun-Nabawi ready to sacrifice their lives for him.

Subhanullah!

My point so far is that not only the content of Islam was SUPERB but its (earliest) followers were also EXEMPLARY.


Today, all praise be to Allah (SWT) that we have the content (Shariah of Islam) intact and the same content which lifted the Sahaba (RA) to the pinnacle of humanity can also raise us should we chose to act upon it.
One of the golden teachings of our Nabi (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) is about eradication of racism i.e. no white man is superior to a black man, no black man is superior to a white man, no Arab is superior to a Non-Arab and no Non-Arab is superior to an Arab!

We (Muslims) pride ourselves that Islam eradicated racism and placed Sayyidina Bilal (RA) an emancipated black African slave on equal footing with those of Arab lineage like Sayyidina Umar (RA) or white skinned European descendants like Sayyidina Suhaub Ar-Rumi (RA), we say to new Muslims that brother (or sister) you are now part of our family and Islam eradicated racism 1400 years ago, but do we act upon it?

Our community is rife with racism when it comes to giving our daughters in marriage. Many amongst Pakistanees won’t marry outside of their cast and ethnicity and many amongst the Gujratees won’t marry outside of their cast and ethnicity even those who are apparently practising upon the Sunnah. In fact, those who are practising quote the conditions within the Hanafi Fiqh about “Kufu (compatibility)” that since my daughter is Gujrati or Pakistani the boy although he is religious (and practising) isn’t a good match because they are not compatible.

The fact of the matter is that our Pakistani daughter growing up in London is more compatible with the African Revert Muslim then her cousin back home but we would have none of it and our Gujrati daughter growing up in Leicester is more compatible with the practising Pakistani then her own cousin back in Surat whom she neither likes nor has any inclination to marry.

Our Nabi (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) gave his cousin , the noble and prestigious Zainab Ibnt Jahsh (RA) to Zayd Ibn Haritha (RA) the emancipated slave to set an example for us and we must realise that our actions have consequences:

"If one whose religion and character pleases you proposes to you, you should marry him. If you do not do so, there will be tribulations in the land and great evil." [Tirmidhi]


Look at our social problems with Sisters getting older and not finding suitable match and many amongst those who are married not being happy, could it be because we preferred a cousin or someone from our own ethnicity over a suitable practising brother? Could it be that the tribulations and the great evil about which Nabi (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam)warned us about is upon us?

May Allah (SWT) protect all of us and grant suitable matches for all our Muslim daughters (Ameen) and let us not wreck their lives due to our false pride.

Tags: racism
posted by Muadh_Khan on 10th November 2012 - 4 comments

4 Comments

Mohsin Raza wrote on 12 Nov 2012
Assalaamu Alaikum,

I appreciate your topic and comments on the said problem. I think one of the cause is that practising muslims do not find a good resource to find a compatible spouse.
 
Mohsin Raza wrote on 12 Nov 2012
Assalaamu Alaikum,

I appreciate your topic and comments on the said problem. I think one of the cause is that practising muslims do not find a good resource to find a compatible spouse.
 
Mohsin Raza wrote on 12 Nov 2012
Assalaamu Alaikum,

I appreciate your topic and comments on the said problem. I think one of the cause is that practising muslims do not find a good resource to find a compatible spouse.
 
salman mustafa wrote on 31 Dec 2012
Why not /make/start a site providing free match making service to Muslims shunning racism and preferring Deen and character over allother traits ?
Blogger's Reply:
Asslamo Allaikum,

Masha'Allah great idea but there are many sites providing match making. Ultimately, decision making can't be taken away from the hands of those concerned all we can do is invite people towards the Sunnah.

Something was suggested a while ago at Sunnifoum

www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?48614-Matrimonial-Mini-Forum-and-concept-of-E-Wali

And I believe that a Sister from the Moderators has a Service already running.

Jazakullah Khairun
 
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