A non-Muslim friend of mine had a beard that he had let grow without trimming. One day, he trimmed it and I told him it looked classier and cleaner than before. These words imply that it is bad to have the beard he had before.
I'm afraid I've committed shirk, because I believe there are scholars in Islam who say it's obligatory to let your beard grow without trimming it. And I said that having trimmed your beard is better than not trimming it, which is contrary to what Islam says. And I was aware that this is contrary to what Islam says.
I believe that when we deny something from Islam, and we are not ignorant, then we are committing shirk which requires renewing one's faith. Does what I've done fit into this scenario? Do I have to say the shahada again? Is what I did haram?
As-Salamu alaykum Sheikh, I was wondering if it is permissable to work in supermarkes such as Asda, Tesco etc due to the fact that they sell some haram products such as Alcohol. Would the income earned from working in these places be halal or haram?
Let's imagine that a Muslim denies a pillar of Islam that he knows to be true, then he becomes a disbeliever. Then, let's imagine that this person pronounces the shahada with sincerity. Is this enough to make him a Muslim again, even if :
- he hasn't repented
- and he hasn't reaffirmed either verbally or in his heart the pillar he denied. However, he knows in his heart that the pillar is true and he no longer denies this certainty
I have a quick question is it permissible for women to dye their eyebrows dark brown?
Salam Ustaz, I hope you are well.
I have been going through issues on waswas and mental health for several years and in the process of healing. Do pray for me.
I will usually do istinjak several times on the toilet bowl and toilet floor for the second time. While performing istinjak on the floor, I had forgotten whether I have washed it clean after cleansing myself from discharges on the floor. I keep on feeling that I have discharges which forces me to stop listening to the whispers. At that time, I am not sure if the sprinkles of impurity touches me. So I just wore my undergarments and pray as I have spent long time in the toilet at that night. The next day, I saw dry stains on that undergarment. Should I just assume that it was pure when I pray? Since there is a possibility that the discharge can be secreted at a later timing, not when I am in the toilet or praying?
I reverted to Islam in March and very shortly after met my boyfriend (I know it is forbidden to date but I fell in love with this man and we plan to get married soon). He asked me about my past and I only told him half of my past, I altered numbers but told him enough to know what I did because I felt ashamed and didn’t want my past to weigh me down. I lied out of fear of judgement. I felt guilty lying and started revealing more about my past. He made it very clear how important it was to him and the more I revealed the more he shamed me for my past. Over the past few months he has blamed me for the failing of our relationship and treated me differently. I took accountability and have tried earning his trust back but out of guilt I’ve eventually told him everything and he said he couldn’t forgive me. He has called me a hoe, liar, evil person, and made out as though I am the only one who has committed this lie. A week ago I remembered something else from my past (I genuinely had forgotten and told him instantly because he has consistently asked me for the smallest of details regarding my past). He said he couldn’t forgive me, no matter how much I begged and pleaded. This morning he told me he had lied about how many people he had sex with (something which I hadn’t lied about) and the amount really hurt me. He said he lied out of shame and guilt and now wants to get back with me. I don’t understand, I feel really hurt and as though he has enjoyed making me suffer for the past few months regarding my past. We fell in love and then all of this started to happen. I feel he has been so unfair to me because he has treated me the way he has when all along he lied too and much worse. I felt guilty for not telling him after he kept digging deeper, he felt no guilt at all no matter how many times I asked. In his defence he also asked me many times and I chose to reveal my past slowly bit by bit because I couldn’t take the judgment and shame it brought me. He forgave me everytime but now I wonder if it was just because he was hiding much more. I don’t know what to do, I love him and understand what I did was wrong. I thought I could conceal my past sins and only tell him enough to have a broad idea. I am hurt at how he has used my past against me and I wouldn’t have done the same to him if I knew his past. I am hurt that he has made me feel as though I am the only liar. I understand he felt shame from his past because that’s what I’ve felt and I understand why he didn’t want to tell me. I really don’t know what to do. Please help me. Despite this he has been loving, protective and respectful. We have met each others families and everything is perfect except for this. I fixate on my past now and all details and worry incase I’ve missed even the smallest detail to him. He said he didn’t see himself marrying me because of my past but now after telling me his he wants a future with me again. He’s been a very big hypocrite and I feel lost
السلام عليكم و رحمة الله
Im married for 10 years With kids. Im a practicing muslim in regards to prayers and everything else with beard. My sexual relationship with my wife is not great. Like we engage may be once a month or two months.
For years I also have masturbation problem but in last one year I committed zina thrice.
Every time I repent and cry to Allah but I get almost possessed by shayatan and commit this gore sin again.
I feel very low of my self. I want to be clean of these sins.
I don't know how to move on and look into the eyes of my wife and kids ..
Three Talaqs in one sitting – A Detailed Account
Husband gave Talaq, Talaq, Talaq in anger. And then said if you stay, you can stay in haram or go to your brother's house.
[A little context];
Before saying the three Talaqs, he took his wife's phone off her and threw it on the floor three times and broke it because she was not listening to his important instructions, the wife was on the phone to their daughter. The husband told his wife to say something to their daughter (something really important), and the wife said she was going to convey the message, but the husband couldn't wait, (he explained that the wife said “ok I will say it.” In a condescending way, but the wife said she said it to him how she normally says it).
He repeated Talaq to his wife three times, and he was extremely angry…Thereafter he said to her, “If you want to stay, you can stay in haram, or go to your brother’s house.”
The wife got her Abaya etc. and went outside the house because of what her husband said. Later the husband said he thought she went to the living room and sat down, he didn’t think she will go out of the house.
About 5 hours later, the husband speaking to his son confirmed he knew what he said, stating phrases such as ''It's finished.'' However, in a conversation 72hrs hours (after the talaq was given), he said he didn't know what he was saying; he said he didn't have control of what he said at the time.
A couple of days later, the husband spoke to some of his children and repeated a few times that he knew what he said, and he said it with his mouth but it was not in his heart, he said it out of anger. He said (to his children) 'Your mum knows I didn't mean it'.
Approximately a week later the husband has gone to his wife, and asked her to go back home with him, but the wife did not want to go. The wife told the husband “You are aware of the ruling go and get some answers and come back.”
The husband since has gone a couple of times back to the wife to tell her to go back home with him but she wishes not to, (she has been living in her relatives house).
Another week later the husband is saying that his anger had calmed down in the last 20 years, and at the time of uttering the talaq, something came over him, he said Iblis took over him, and he does not remember what he said, he was insane and berserk. He emphasised only he knows what he meant, and no one understands him except a few.
Any help will be appreciated…
As salaam u alaikum Shaykh
Hope you are well
First part :
Regarding vows :
I’ve been back and forth on multiple sites trying to figure out if feeding a meal ( no weight specified ) is sufficient or does it have to weight approximately 1.5kg ?
Is it permissible to cook a rice and accompaniment dish and feed to the homeless ( no weighing of food will be done here )
I’ve checked other answers . Some specify weight some specify lunch or dinner as sufficient so I am unsure
One organization uses the fitra amount of R27 for a hanafi per person
Can I ask the organization to pay them of off on my behalf
Second part :
Previously had/have severe OCD
do my previous vows count as I used them as a coping mechanism in order to do or not to do something . I did not fully understand the seriousness of it until now
I cannot remember the number of vows as well . Maybe 1-3 a day for over 3/5 years
: what constitutes a vow ? Does it have to have the name of Allah swt in it for it to count ?
Your assistance will help
Assalamwuakaikum, I would like an answer for a scenario that I am currently in.
I am 19 years old and a student at university. I have known this girl for over 3 years and I have known her really well for just over 1 year. I really want to marry her and so does she want to marry me. Our parents spoke and although my parents were willing to meet and speak, her parents rejected on the basis that we are too young and that me as the man, I have no income yet and no house.
We really want to make things halal to avoid zina and her parents told mine that they say no due to age, but secretly it’s because they wish for her to marry a much older relative, Which she has openly said no to. Her father is not the best of people for reasons, he is against my proposal due to my geographical location (does not like area where I live) and is very stubborn.
Her mother has spoke to me and was the one to tell me to get my parents to speak to the girls parents. So she is understanding of our situation but her husband is very against it for what i believe is an invalid reason.
The girl has told me that she doesn’t want me to fully financially depend on me and has agreed with me the idea that we can remain in our parents home until I have graduated with a job. But her parents do not want us to marry simply due to age and not having a house (alongside judging me for where I live).
I would like to marry her with permission of an imaam and not make our family aware of our nikkah, and eventually they will accept, and at that point. Can we do another nikkah contract to avoid huge family arguments as her family is very culturally minded. I believe I meet the requirements that she wants for us to get married in terms of Mehr, providing for her when she wants me to, just the guardianship and witnesses is my concern and whether with this situation. Can I get nikkah done without the knowledge of her and my parents for this scenario? Jazakallah khair