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Addressing one's spouse

Last updated: 2nd October 2005
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2nd October 2005


Assalamoalaikum warahmatullahi wabarakaatuh

What is the correct and most respectful term by which to address one's spouse?

Please advise terms for both husband and wife.

Jazakumullah Khairun


Ulamaa ID 03
Answer last updated on:
7th December 2005
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Ulamaa ID 03
Location: UK
Bismihi Ta'aalaa 5th Zul-Qa'dah 1426 - 6th December 2005

There are no specific injunctions in Shari'ah in this regard. Islam has ordained both the husband and wife to live with one another with mutual respect.

Hence, the essential rule when addressing one another is to avoid terms which denote disrespect.

This will depend very much on the language and culture of the couple.

The traditional texts of fiqh indicate that a husband may call her wife by her name. However, a woman should not address her husband by name. This has been termed as undesirable. (Makrooh) She should use a term which shows respect and honour. If they have children, she may use the Kunniyah, (honorofic name) e.g. Abu Ahmad, etc. (Fataawa Rahimiyyah, Page 413, Vol 2)

Allah (SWT) Knows Best. (Mufti) Abdullah Patel