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want to marry

Last updated: 29th May 2006
Question ID: #1912
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muslim sister
29th May 2006

i am really confused and dont know what i shud do.i was going out with a guy whos an alim.knowing we were doing the wrong thing i decided to ask my parents if we could father refused so i stopped all forms of contact with him but i really want to marry this guy and dont know what i should do.

Ulamaa ID 03
Answer last updated on:
5th July 2006
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Ulamaa ID 03
Location: UK

In the Name of Allah, the Inspirer of Truth.
Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Sister

You made the right move in breaking contact with this brother. If you really seriously want to marry this person, then seek the intercession of a member of your family, or another party whom you are comfortable with, to mediate with your father and convince him.

If however, your father is still adamant, then we feel you should respect your father's wish. The spouse whom Allah has written for you will come to be Insha-Allah Ta'ala, nothing can change that . You are complete strangers as far as the Shari’ah is concerned anyway. The past is gone and spent. You have your whole life ahead of you so invest life in pleasing the One Lord, Allah.

And Allah knows Best
Wa Alaykumussalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh