Create an account
The Q&A section is no longer active in taking new questions. We would like to thank every person who trusted us in providing reliable and accurate answers to questions and problems. Due to lack of time available from the Ulamaa in the UK, we are unable to continue with this service.
The section will however remain available as an archive of previously answered question. To ask new questions, please consider the Q&A support section on the forum where members can assist in locating available answers from Ulamaa.

Feeding in a bereived

Last updated: 1st March 2006
Question ID: #1502
Short URL:
Printer Friendly Version Email this page
1st March 2006


Assalamu Alaikum

Family/Friends of a person who's father dies (in his native country) decide to cook for the bereaved family, and invite local Family/Friends to eat. Is there anything islamic about this? if not does it count as biddat?

Ulamaa ID 04
Answer last updated on:
7th October 2007
Answered by:
Ulamaa ID 04
Location: London

Al-jawab billahi at-taufeeq (the answer with Allah's guidance)

when a person has passed away, his immediate family is plunged into grief. In such a situation every possible manner of lessening this grief must be adopted by the relatives, neighbours, friends, etc. To help lessen the grief of a Believer is an extremely virtuous act. It is for this very reason that such great rewards have been mentioned for consoling a bereaved person. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) is reported to have said: "The one who consoles a person who has been afflicted with some calamity, receives the same reward as the afflicted person" (Tirmizi). Hence, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) would also personally offer his condolences to the family of the deceased. Therefore, everything must be done to comfort the family and ease the trauma that they are experiencing.

When the news of the martyrdom of Hazrath Ja’far (R.A.) was received, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) instructed the Sahaaba (R.A.) to send food for the family of Hazrath Ja’far (R.A.), since due to their grief, they would now not be able to pay attention to the preparation of food, etc." (Tirmizi; Ibn Majah). The fuqaha have thus mentioned that it is preferable for the friends, relatives, etc. to send food for the bereaved family for one day. (Durrul Mukhtaar, vol.1, pg. 841).

At this point it is known that by gathering and inviting other people at the funeral home for meals, a burden is placed upon the bereaved family. This does not serve the purpose of lessening their grief in any way. Hence, this is against the Sunnah and should be avoided.

And Only Allah Ta'ala Knows Best.