6th November 2005
I have going through a lot of hell in my marriage.I have got to the stage where I feel I want to give up.I have been married for 4 years and have tried everything to keep this marriage alive.
Both families are quite active in the tablighi effort.Last year I took her out for 40 days and this year alhumdulillah we both performed the Hajj.
We quarrel over very small things and then the matter would just flare up.Everytime she threatens me that she will leave with our child. I am constantly put down.I can't say anything to her.
We were on good talking terms and I think she was all OK and happy, that one day she got her father to come,packed her bags and left!I spoke to her the night before and in the morning said sallam to her before going to work .In the afternoon she left.
I have not spoken to her since more than two months.My son is suffering.
She came and took all her belongings one day.
When tried going to see my son I was given heavy abuse.
I need mashwerah and guidance.I feel I am mazloom.what is the punishment for a woman who does this??
Maulana sahub what is the best course of reconcile.Is it just best to move on? I love her from the core of my heart and would want this to work at any cost.
Please also can you give me duas/amaal to counter this great test from Allah swt.I do not see any hope.