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| Question ID: | #55 |
| Question: i am 18 years old i sexually frustrated. . i have... | |
| i am 18 years old i sexually frustrated. . i have communicated the problem with my parents. they say that i have to do sabr beacuse i am currently studying and i wont be able to support a wife. i have tried fasting but it greatly affects my studies. my father has told me to masturbate because of my situation, would this be allowed in my circumstance? i already keep my gaze down and avoid being in contact with women at all unless absolutely neccessary but still the urge is there. i do not watch tv and i pray all my salah and i am also seeking ilm from ulama. i busy myself with zikr whenever i feel aroused and i try to keep my self as busy as possible, but i dont know whether i can keep this up for at least 5 years until i complete my studies.i am following the advice that is usually given and it is helping to a degree. my father has told me that no one will be willing to offer their daughter to me, i acknowledge and accept this. also this abstinence has created a certain amount of hatred for women i consider them sometimes stupid. | |
| Answered by: | Ulamaa ID 01 () |
| Date: | 07/10/2004 21:33pm |
May Allah help you in your situation. The only thing one can do in such a situation is be patient. In such a situation, it is Waajib for one to get married if he has the means to do so. Otherwise, he will have to be patient. Also, if fasting, then at iftaar time you musnt eat much otherwise, that can also be a cause for the temptations to go high. The idea of masturbating is not a good one. Firstly, because the surpressing of the desires will only be temporarily. Secondly, if one indulges in this act and gets a habit of it then the ill effects it holds are very severe, i.e the damaging of your sexual ability. Also health risks, stress risks and head-aches, and back aches are all ill effects of this act. For this reason, the only advice will be to keep on fasting and ask Allah to help you in your situation.
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