Question ID: #3608
Question: doas one can say to help him overcome the pain of losing a loved one

i wanted to know if there are some specific doas one can say in order to help him/her overcome the pain and greif of losing a loved one or a family member.specially in the times when the person is being missed a lot.

also that according to my knowledge the one who departs from this world also misses his family and freinds just as the living miss the dead.what doas could one recite or any QURANIC SURAS or ayats to give peace to the one who has departed from this world.

i would be grateful to u if you could reply to me as soon as possible

moreover this is the first time im submittin a question to any site and im really happy to see people contributing towards their islamic duties and religion by helping their fellow muslims.
Answered by: Ulamaa ID 10 (Malaysia)
Date: 16/09/2007 20:44pm

Waalaikumussalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
Bismillahir rahmaanir rahim.

Allah Taala has mentioned in the Noble Quraan:

'...And give glad tidings to the patient ones - those who when afflicted by a calamity say "Indeed to Allah we belong and indeed to Him we shall return." It is those who will be awarded blessings and mercy from their Lord and it is those who are guided.' (Surah Al-Baqarah, verses 155 - 157)

It comes in a hadith whereby Umm Salamah reported that Rasulullah SAW said:

'Whenever a Muslim is afflicted by a calamity and he says what Allah has commanded him, "Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un. Allahumma aajirni fi musibati wa akhlif li khairan minha" (Certainly to Allah we belong and certainly to Him shall we return. Oh Allah! Reward me for my affliction and replace it for me something that is better.) except that Allah will replace for him with something better.'

Indeed death is something inevitable and we shall all go through it one day by the will of Allah. It is something that most of the time strikes us with grief and fear when it afflicts people especially our dear and loved ones. There is nothing wrong in grieving or mourning over the deceased but it must be done according to the Shariah (ie. not more than 3 days unless for a wife whose husband passed away, no wailing, no tearing of the clothes etc.). Not everyone has the strength to exercise patience when death occurs within the family hence the Quraanic verse above.

From the mentioned Quraanic verses and hadith, as a Muslim, it only befits us to have patience and hope for reward from Allah when a calamity befalls us. Therefore, Rasulullah SAW has adviced us to read the above stated dua whenever difficulty afflicts us, death in this case. May Allah reward our efforts on trying to practice patience during an affliction.

And Allah knows best.


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