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iam 21, recently got married, the...

Last updated: 7th October 2004
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iam 21, recently got married, the problem is the person i got married to , hes in back home i dont lave him at all. i tried being a good wife to him , but inside its failing. iam pregnant aswell. hes avery good guy theres no fault in him.when the marraige took place i wasnt happy,to make my parents and family happy i said yes.so i gave in to give a chance. iam still not happy and in side its killing me. i should be happy now. idont know what to do, help me please.


Assalamu alaikum. You say that you got married a year or so ago and now due to that marriage you have fallen pregnant. You also state that you were not happy with the marriage and that you embarked on it for your parents hapiness. Sister, i can only say to you that is was your choice at the end of the day. You were the one who was going to spend the rest of your life with this man. Why did you give in to your parents wishes. You should have tried to explain to them in a very affectionate manner that you are not happy to marry there. If you look at your situation as an outsider then you will also see that now it seems too late. You have fallen pregnant. How will it be to see a child grow up without the love of his biological father. Remember, a child needs both parents, mother and father. Also, a non-biological parent will never love a kid the way it deserves to be loved. To put your marriage into ruins now will be selfish. Think about the child. Pray to Allah that he puts sone attraction and love in your heart for this man that you also say is good. This is all we may suggest as to suggest for you to get divorced will be unfair.

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Answer last updated on:
7th October 2004
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