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Last updated: 20th February 2012
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Asalamualaikum Respected Mufti please help me with the following issue. i am 21 years old and find it very hard controlling my desires. its become a kind of habit that i look at indecent pictures of women on the internet whilst in bed laying face down and then move around on my bed in such a way whilst looking at the pictures until i end up ejaculating. i know and feel that this is so wrong and i try and make tauba aswell but i still end up repeating this again. 1. does this count as masturbation even though i dont touch my private parts with my hands at all? 2. i cannot get married at the moment because of studies. other than fasting please could you advise me of how i can get rid of this bad habit because i know it is a sin and can affect my health and can make me weak for when i get married. please tell me anything i can do to stop this habit like if there are any certain duas i can pray or wazeefas etc please get back to me as soon as possible. may Allah reward you greatly in both this world and in the hereafter. Ameen


Al-jawab billahi at-taufeeq (the answer with Allah's guidance)

1) This is a form of masterbation.

2.a) You must struggle against your Nafs in doing good deeds and obeying Allah Ta'ala and His Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). Allah Ta'ala says, "Those who strive hard in our cause (worships), We will guide them in our paths (to the Deen), Indeed Allah is with those who do good deeds." (45:69)

For example, When a person finds it hard to stop this habit, he must struggle against his Nafs and desires (of lustful thoughts) trying to control and conquer it, then Allah will open and guide him to the paths and make it easy for him to live according to Quran and Sunnah. Indeed He is with such people.

b) Find the root causing you to fall into this sin and eliminate it, i.e. lower your gazes. Allah Ta'ala says,

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts…” [al-Noor 24:30]

Lowering the gazes brings light to the heart, just as letting the gaze wander brings darkness to it.

c) Increase your Imaan. Please view this link on ways to increase Imaan: http://www.muftisays.com/qa/question/1779/guidance.html

d) Keep active in doing something good; such as, acquire Ilm (knowledge) about one's Deen.

e) Stay in the Suhbat (company) and Majalis (gatherings) of the pious people.

f) Make a routine of reciting the Quran like morning and evening etc.

"We sent down in the Quran that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe." (17:82)

Recite Zikr abundantly.

“O you who believe! Remember Allah with much remembrance”. (Ahzab:41)

Recite La Ilaha IllAllahu Muhammadur Rasulullah frequently.

Recite Surah Yaseen in the morning.

Recite Muawwazatain (Surah Naas and Falaq) and Surah Ikhlas and blow over yourself from your nape to feet 3 times, after every Fardh Salah and before you retire to bed.


g) Do not lose hope in the Mercy of Allah Ta'ala and His forgiveness. Allah Ta'ala forgives all sins. If you are sincere in your repentance, verily Allah Ta'ala will forgive you, as He is Most forgiving, Most merciful.

Allah Ta'ala says : "Say: 'O My slaves who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins! Despair not of the mercy of Allah; verily, Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful'. (39:53)

"Pray to Him with fear and hope; His Mercy is near to the righteous." (7:56)

"Do not despair of the Comfort of Allah, none but unbelievers despair of the Comfort of Allah." (12:87)

And Only Allah Ta'ala Knows Best.

Answer last updated on:
15th May 2012
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Ulamaa ID 04
Location: London