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Assalam o Alaikum,
I have a very serious question that I have been considering asking for the past few years but kept delaying it as I kept giving my husband a chance.
So here is what has happened. I (US Citizen) got married in 2017 to my husband who had a job in Dubai and was working over there. The reason for his wedding was he wanted to get married to someone who was already set abroad for better "job opportunities." My parents and I never questioned it as we thought his family and him were good people. My dad owned two gas stations at that time, one of which I was running. My in-laws thought that my dad would give the 2nd gas station to my husband to "settle" him down. Unfortunately that store was shut down due to losses after I had left. Ever since he migrated to the USA he and I have stayed at my parents house (FOR FREE) as he never offered to pay rent or even any bills or buy groceries which I often did with my own earnings. Even on my earnings he kept making me put them in our joint bank account and said to spend money on credit cards rather than cash. I had no right over my money, if I bought something with my own money he would yell at me. Fast fwd, he worked at my dads main store for 2 yrs then decided he wanted to change careers and start driving trucks on long routes. He took my money and paid for his trucking school, got his license and drove a truck for almost 2 yrs (with breaks in between). We went back home for 6 months and when I asked to get IVF somehow all the money he earned on the truck was finished. $50k lost in crypto and the rest apparently was spent on making his family a house in Pakistan but I did not get even a single dollar. Later on after leaving trucking he started working at my dads store again in which he gave him 20% partnership (that too is under my name because my husband kept threatening to leave me if my dad doesn't include him in his business but never used the word divorce so I cannot say if it was Islamically a divorce) and he was caught stealing on video (he voided receipts put cash in drawer and took cash end of shift as he was closing.) He then tried to con me into thinking he already had the cash at home and that it was an accusation. He asked my dad and his business partner for forgiveness and is now telling me that when my dad comes back from Pakistan I need to tell him that I was the one who told my husband to ask my dad and his business partner for forgiveness which is a LIE. The question here is, I have been asking this man to buy me a house for a very long time and he keeps making excuses and says he cannot afford it but now with all this I am very upset and he is still refusing to move out. I don't know what to do in this situation. Is it in my right to ask for separation or will ALLAH SWT be angry with me for doing so. Please help me in this situation.
JazakAllah Khair.
