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Overly Possessive wife raising suspicions in relationship

Last updated: 15th September 2025
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Assalam o alaikum WRB, I am 43 yr & my wife is 39 yrs old. We are into 16 yrs of marriage with 2 boys. My wife is suspicious about my actions before any women including my Sister in laws like noticing whether I am looking at them. I limit my conversation with them during family get togethers. When we are outside, She is watching on me whether I am looking at other women & starts accusing me that i did. When i try to reject the claims, We get into arguments. She also incites me by saying i like the other women or sister in law because she was physically revealing or overly expressive during the conversation. She says she trusts me but dislike my actions of looking at women & talking to them. I have been rejecting these baseless claims. I have lost patience now & I get into argument now yelling & scolding at her. She states she loves me & hence she is jealous. After the fight she then stops doing chores or cooking for the family especially kids & goes into isolation. These actions of her has never made me love her or increase the affection & makes me distance from her. She sends loads of Hadiths to me to replicate myself with Rasool e kareem SAW as to how he was with Ummul momineen. But she never introspects on herself. Please advise who is wrong & what is the interim & final solution for this.



بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

Marriage is based on trust and respect. Fulfilling each others rights as well as understanding and acknowledging the feelings of each other. One should not neglect these as it will affect one’s marriage.

It is better that both yourself and your wife take this case to your local Imam so he can listen to both of you and give guidance and solution to the problem.


And Only Allah knows best

08 Rabiul Thani 1447/ 01 October 2025

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