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Proper Seclusion (Khalwat e sahiha)

Last updated: 17th December 2024
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If a couple has done their nikaah but rukhsati is yet to happen. The husband used to meet in the guest room of her parents house. The guest room was accessible by everyone. people were always present in the house and there was always a risk of someone entering the room. The guest room had two doors. Doors were closed at times but never locked as they didnt have their locks on them so anyone could enter without permission. The couple did have intimate moments, kissing, rubbing each other's private parts and once husband tried to do intercourse while standing for 10 to 15 seconds but he was unable to do it because wife was uncomfortable as she wanted it to happen after rukhsati. Also, there was always a risk of someone entering. Please let me know if this is khalwat e sahiha or not given the room was not completely secured but the husband did try to do intercourse for a few seconds but he was unable to. Jazakallah


بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

Khalwa Sahiha is when both husband and wife have the time to be alone with each other without having any preventions from having intercourse. In other words, the actual intercourse doesn’t need to occur but they have that opportunity and ability to.

As you mentioned in the question that you had the opportunity to consummate the marriage but opted not to out of your own choices. Also the guest room the door was closed but not locked and the room was accessible to everyone there was a risk that someone could enter as you mentioned. This will mean as if Khalwa was not done as there was no privacy given. So this is not a proper Khalwa even you had intimacy between each other.

وفي كتاب مجمع الأنهر قوله: ( والدخول كناية عن الجماع). وهذا هو معناه اللغوي أيضا. جاء في المصباح المنير للفيومي قوله: ( دخل بامرأته دخولا , كناية عن الجماع أول مرة، وغلب استعماله في الوطء المباح " ومنه قوله تعالى :
من نسائكم اللاتي دخلتم بهن , فإن لم تكونوا دخلتم بهن فلا جناح عليكم
). اهـ.

• أحدهما : أن المراد به الجماع ، و هو أصح قولي الشافعي .
• و القول الآخر : و هو قول الأئمة الثلاثة المراد به الخلوة ) .
قلت : و الأرجح و الأحوط – و الله أعلم – هو مذهب الجمهور ، فإذا خلا الرجل بزوجته في حال يمكنه معه مواقعتها كان ذلك دخولاً ، و إن لم يقع الجماع ، إذ إن العبرة بالتمكّن لا بالفعل ، و مقدّمات الشيء تأخذ حكمه في كثير من الأحوال ، و هذه إحداها .
و يؤيد هذا ما رواه القرطبي في تفسيره عن ابن مسعود رضي الله عنه أن الخلفاء الراشدون قضوا فيمن أغلق بابا أو أرخى ستراً على المرأة ثمّ طلّقها بالصداق كاملاً ، أي أنّهم عدّوا ذلك منه دخولاً ، و إن لم يقع فيه جماع .
هذا ، و الله المستعان ، و عليه التكلان
و الحمد لله ربّ العالمين .
(كتبه
د . أحمد عبد الكريم نجيب)

And Allah knows best

17 Jumadal Thaniya 1446/ 19 December 2024
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