Assalamu alejkum,

In order to get legal status in the USA I have married to an American man. I pay him money for that and never had any intimate relationships with him, and I live far away from him. I converted to Islam half year after this marriage. So our marriage had nothing to do with Islam because I was not Muslim and my �husband� was and is not a Muslim. Now I would like to marry a Muslim guy (who doesn�t have any legal status) and wonder if I have to divorce this person I am married to now. I want to know is it halal or haram for me to marry (in mosque or in other country) without divorcing this man now. It�s been a year now since we�ve got married with him and I�ve got my first legal paper (I am in legal status now for the following 2 years if I don�t divorce). Staying married is the only way for me to be able study and to visit my family (they all are far away, back in my country), and if I divorce, I may not be able to see them for many years�

Assalam alajkum warahmatullahi wa baraketuh.

Asalaam,

Mufti Saab, My husband attends Jamaat for 40 days every year and I wish to go to my parents house to live with them during these 40days - is this permissable?
I wish to stay with my parents with the intention of doing their kidmat during my husbands 40 days (i have no children either) as i do not get the opportunity to do so in my daily life - I live in a different town. My husband is adamant that I have to stay at home with his parents - only then will I be rewarded as he will.
Please can you shed some light on this - sometimes I think that men don't understand how hard a sacrifice it is for women to move away from their parents once they get married.

Jazakallah

asalamualaikum

can you tell me whether or not forced marriages are accepted in islam

Assalamualikum Warah Matullahi Wa Barakaa tuu

I am mashallah a practising muslim who wears niqaab and am studying for an Alimah course. Mashallah my heart is wholly attached to my salah and quran, and to better myself as a muslim as best I can.
I am very confused about what I should do. I really want to get married to protect my chastity and Imaan and to follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah (s.a.w) I also want to make sure that I marry a pious person who adheres to Sunnah as much as possible. However I have seen two people and somehow I really don't think I can manage to see any more people to marry.

Primarily this is because at univeristy, three years ago I was friends with a non-muslim boy and I completely realise that it was haraam and I see that person as a complete stranger. He wanted to get married to me but I explained that he would need to become a muslim genuinely to marry a muslim woman. I have repented for ever having been friends with him. However in terms of contact with him I have sent him Islamic books, Quran CD, also have emailed him (and other non-muslims friends from uni islamic articles). I recently texted him (my mum encouraged me to find out how he felt) to let him know that although I have the intention to marry as soon as possible I havn't got the inclination to see any more people as I hold strong hope of him becoming a muslim. I don't know if this is Shaytaan whispering to me. He knows my passion for Islam and knows that he would have to be a strong muslim for me to marry him but he thinks it is a good idea I wait for him.

I genuinely would never want to marry him if he wasn't a practising muslim, so that is why I am confused about having hope for him.

Please advise me as to what I should do.

Jazakallah hu Khairan.

Hi. I would appreciate if you can tell me regarding about engagement in islam. Is there anything mentioned about engagement in islam? Or if so than what can be done or what cannot be done? Jazakallah

Asalamalakum

if a womens husband has died and has a child. is the wife aloud to marry the brother and raise his own nephew/neice as a father not an uncle

i am really confused and dont know what i shud do.i was going out with a guy whos an alim.knowing we were doing the wrong thing i decided to ask my parents if we could marry.my father refused so i stopped all forms of contact with him but i really want to marry this guy and dont know what i should do.

assalamu-alaykum-warahmatullah-wabarakatuh

i hope this email reaches to you in good health - ameen!

I have a cousin who is 40 years of age and she has a daughter who is 19. i am 23 of years of age. would it be allowed to get married to the daughter? this makes her my niece in a way but some people argue saying they become my 2nd cousin. the question is, if the girl consents to get married to me and the parents of mine and hers, would it be permissible to get married to her? the reason my cousin is much older is because the varying ages of my uncles and aunties which led to big gaps amongst the generation.

jazakumullah for reading my email and i look forward to reading the answer soon inshallah!

He is a Muslim but had several realtionships with non-muslim women. He met a muslim woman through internet whom he wanted to get married. In the meantime he lived together with a christian woman for 3 years. He contacted with her when the christian woman left her. But again he is contacting with the christian woman with whom he was living together, this muslim woman is confused if she should wait for him or not.

Can she make an istikhara to understand that if she should wait for this person, cuz she wants this person to live like a muslim marrying a muslim woman.

Aslamoalaikum...6 years ago I made a Nikah with a christian girl,who believed that Jesus is a Biological son of God. Alhamdulillah last ramazan she has embraced Islam. I would like to know, do we have to make a nikah again or our first nikah will remain the same.
I will be very thankful to you for the answer.
Allah bless us All.
Wasslam / Abdullah

Is a man allowed to kiss his own wife on her lips?

i have been married for about 8 years but i have never had any sexual relationship with my husband (im still virgin) but only hugging etc. we are seperated now for 7 years and for 2 years i have not seen even his face. now when i'll be divorce whether i am due to iddat or not. kindly answer my question.

salaam i had a question on my mine i want to know in islam is a man allowed to marry his sister-in law even if his wife is still alive?and if a women dies is her husband allowed to see or kiss her after she is washed and cleaned just before she is buried?

Assalam o alaikum
ive been in contact with you via emails but i have still not go any reply from you. any way emailing again.
i have been in nikah for more than 8 years, since my nikah i have never been in a sexual relationship with my husband (as he never ever wants to) but only kissing and hugging and thats it. my question is if i get divorce from him, will i be due to any iddah? please do reply as soo as possible.
may Allah swt give you peace in this world and the herafter.
parveen
from pakistan.

As salaamualiakum

I want to know urgently whether, after nikah I can hold my wife's hand etc..

The valimah is in a months time but nikah has been done.

Jazakalah

Assalamu Alaikum,

Dear respected Scholars,

Could you please tell me if husband got married to another woman, first wife will qualified to divorce.

Wat are the womens rights for divorce.IF the man doesnt want to divorce

Jazakallah.

assalamu alaikum

i have noticed over quite some years now, that men (some alims but mainly non-alims) dont want to marry female scholars. this is due to the fear of the the wife telling the husband whats wrong & whats not. basically, the wife knowing her rights where the husband, the in-laws etc.stand.

the thing is, i have not only heard it from my male relatives who are haafiz or learned to an extent, but also from a moulana saying he doesnt want an alima daughter-inlaw beacuase he thinks that alimas are lazy. (because the daughter-inlaw is aware of how much or how little she can do for inlaws with regards to serving them by foot & hand)

or that she will deny the husband his likings or dislikings because she is fully aware of islamic rules. i think that men feel threatened.

isnt this wrong? shouldnt a husband look for deen in a wife? i want to send my daughter to a jamea to do the full course if she can, or as many/little years as she can. but i feel threatened that my daughter will not be marriage material for many decent men.

what is your humble opinion?

Salaams, can a boy and girl just have nikah done (if approved by parents) so they can save themselves from current and future sin. And then plan to do widaa/walima perhaps a year or two later - after they have finished studies?

Assalam,
Im Sameer and from London. I recently had a marriage proposal, and while initially everything seems to be fine and we also did namaz Isthekhara with positive results, the issues now from the girl's side is that they consulted a Qari to check again if the marriage would work. After checking, the Qari stated that we will have problems and rows if we do get married, but it will only work if one of us change our name saying things like names are like water and fire and sometimes they doesnt match. Now I dont understand this and has never came across this situation in my life...I will really appreciate if you will be able to advise me on this as I really love the girl, and if I do change my name (As the Qari said) will it work? I have faith in Allah and I do know the importance of namaz Isthekhara too.. Im very worried.. Insha Allah I will hear from you soon.. Wassalam

assalamu alaykum
i did my nikah without any mehram present, due to my parents not agreeing with me marrying the guy. but we had 2witnesses who were just friends. is the nikah valid?