Marriage - General

assalamu alaikum
please could you tell me, what is the least amount of mehr that can be given? please could you tell me in pounds.jazakallah
wassalam

Salaams! I am in a bit of a dilemma. Someone gave some advice (and said that this was the islamic perspective too) that when looking for a female marriage partner, you should try to make sure that the girl is less educated or less intelligent than the male (myself). Alhamdu lillaah I have quite good knowledge of Islam including Fiqh A'qaaid, seerah, hadith etc. But my potential marriage partner is an 'Aalimah. Is it not worth me seeing her for marriage? Is the brothers advice true? jazakallaah

Salam, I''m writing to a chain of dreams that I''ve received since May 2002. I had a dream at that time where I was possibly in a hospital and my father is there to come see me. Apparently my father is holding my hand when I fall asleep and when I wake up I notice I''m still holding a man''s hand, only it turns out to be some man who is a stranger to me. I ask this stranger where is my father and he just smiles at me. Then I ask him, "who are you" ..he smiles again and says don''t worry he''ll be back to see you. It appears that this stranger knows me on a personal basis by the affectionate conversation we share but I am left confused. About four months later, I was traveling and I came across this stranger in a building lobby where we exchanged a few words. His appearance matched the one that I had in the dream in May. I immediately noticed that it was this man who i had seen before. Time passed many times and we crossed paths many times. For some reason, I decided to do Istikhara in 2002 regarding this man, and I have received a positive response from day one. I''ve continued doing istikhara for 3 years and I''ve received a positive response every time. The only thing that bothers me is that I''ve known a lot of personal details about of his past through people in the community and I don''t see him being a match for me due to his bad past. Over three years, I''ve seen many dreams followed by istikhara or actual experiences in person where I see parts of his life in my dreams. I see him traveling with me, I''ve seen him meeting me for dinner, I''ve seen our mothers talking in his house and I see myself more grown up in there, I see myself having mashallah two beautiful daughters but in that dream I''m not told who the father is, I''ve seen him and his family member in one dream stopping me in the marketplace where he asks me to decide about an important matter in two weeks time, and I''ve seen my father asking me in a dream if I had known him in the past. I''ve confided with malvi''s accross the country and they said only allah knows best. If I''ve done istikhara for 3 years and it came out positive what does that mean? I have lost contact with this person in the past two years. Also in one of the dreams I saw him married to someone else and the marriage was bad. If he is married, then what is the validity of my istikhara. I was advised in a istikhara that I will marry an unmarried man by a maulvi. Is there truth to my dreams? Lastly, there was also a dream where the guy''s mother walks up to me in a masjid and offers me her phone number but I do not react immediately. Please advise, the istikharas have shown me enough but I have no contact with this man. Jazakallah and may ALLAH SWT bless you. Khair.[b:6f1eebbdc4][/b:6f1eebbdc4]

I got engaged 4 months back and everything was going perfect and smoothly. Suddenly, from first week of July my fiancee started acting strangely? I meet her and enquired the problem so she said; that she is not interested in marrying me because she likes someone else. She requested me to take all blames and end up this engagement. I refused her for taking any kind of blames and mentioned everything to her mother. Her entire family was against this decision and told her that we cannot let you marry with that person at any case. No matter if me gets marry with you or whatever? after a week we came to know that my fiancee has already done court marriage with that person and all four evidence (Gavaas) were from that person side. Everyone is against this decision and asked the person family to take the girl because we cannot bear her with us. That?s just her decision from our family.

While nikkah there should be 2 evidence (Gavaas) from girl side which should be maharam. Non maharam gavaas are not applicable (In case if any maharam gavaas are not present). Please let me know is this Nikkah is acceptable in Islamic and Sharyiat point of view or what?

Asalaam'Alaikum!

I pray that this reaches you in the best of Imaan! Ameen

I am in a very awkward situation Inshah'Allah i hope you can help!

I performed a secret marriage several months ago. By secret i mean that neither of our families know about it. My question is thus, whether my marriage is valid.

I am a muture woman, currently studying at uni and the man i married is also mutured and at the time we got married he was working and quite stable in life.

I just want to tell you about the whole situation in which we got marreid and the whole procude of the acctual Nikkah. Our marraige was obvioulsy very different because until date neither of our families know we are married. The Nikkah was performed on the 25th Ramadhan at a resturant near a Mosque. I had no Haq Mahr, no wahli and no written contract. Both the witnesses were arranged by himself and infact the whole ceremony was arranged by him. One of our witnesses is his best freind and the other was just some random brother who works at this resturant. He (my husband) performed the Nikkah himself whereby he said "I want to marry you" he took my full name and then said "do you accept?" and repeated this three times and i said "Yes" three times.

THAT IS ALL THAT HAPPEND.....

Oh yeah! urm, one witness knows about our situation ie the secret marriage and all his personal problems and that he has no status here; but the other like i have said knows nothing i don't think he knows our names!

The only reason we got married is for the sake of Allah (SWT), both of us are practicing and we tried our utmost best to follow Islam. Our relationship had no name, and i was scared that if I die i'm going to go to hell! We tried everything to stop sinning (ie talking for hours) it was working and it was becoming a craze.

I have spoken to a Mufti in Leicester (he didn't give me chance to actually speak) who said that it was valid so i just left it at that. however, i told some friends who think its invalid and hence keep putting doubt in my head. so, i asked my husband to find out and he is admant that this is all valid and that Mufti Yaseen from London told him so. Shiek Yasseer from the States has alsdo said that tis is invalid.

That is my situation!

i hope you can help Inshah'Allah!

May Allah (SWT) reward you. Ameen!

Your sister in Islam

He claims it is ok because he knocks and wasnt heard so he used the key because he had a purpose for entrance . Is it ok if he knocks but isnt heard ?

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The above question is in relation to the previously answered question:

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i would like to know if the father-in-law is allowed to enter his sons house when his son is not at home and without the permission of the daughter-in-law?

on this page: http://www.muftisays.com/index.php?viewpage=qa&question=427

If a woman is in a state of iddah (divorce) and the final year of her university degree programme begins can she attend. For example: lectures/ tutorials/ enrolement. Bearing in mind that she has only been able to secure a place on the course under exceptional circumstances and can only complete it that particular academic year.

Salams

Can you please tell me, what dua to pray to have a good happy successsful marriage.

i would like to know if the father-in-law is allowed to enter his sons house when his son is not at home and without the permission of the daughter-in-law?

Assalamu aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

Dear respected Elders,
At first i apologise wrong english and that i put this question on this place, but please tell me where(and how) i can put the question in her corect section.
Me ,im Alhamdulillah a new muslim since 8 years. My wife she is Alhamdulillah a muslima from a muslim family, we?re married since 5 years and Alhamdulillah we have 2 children. I m very happy that ALLAH s.w.t gave me the big bounty of an pious wife.
Since about ? years I know a also new muslima girl wich has he same nationality with me. She is muslima alhamdulillah since she was 14 years old because of her cousin sister wich was married with an Arabian brother, who wa studying in our country. Now since few years they went back to his country and that girl is alone with her own family wich are hating islam very much, and are prohibiting her to be a muslima. In our country (Romania) we doesn?t have many muslims societies like in UK or EU. So for her it?s very hard to practice islaam. This is was she told me at the beginning. Before I became to learn her I had also intentions about to marry an second wife wich is coming from my own country. So from the beginning when I became to learn her I intented to marry her. At the beginning she told me that her wish is to leave in an muslim family where she can live her feelings, she told me that she wish very much to live according to ilsaam, to wear hijab, to fast etc. but with her family it?s not possible. So I understood that she wish to live according to islaam but for her its impossible. I was imagining that when we marry it will be easy for her, even if she doesn?t know to much about islaam, to learn islaam and to practice it because she?s wishing this so much. But I became to fear her?s god development in deen after some mails to her in wich I tried to emphasise her to follow the commandments of ALLAH s.w.t by telling her many fadhaail of many amaal, when at least I became to hear that she is loving to much wordly things like music , modern clothes etc. and for her an strict Islamic life will be close to impossible or even impossible in Romania. So I decide to tell her that in that case she continue to be my sister but if there not even the niyyat of nikkah (from my side) than any relations are not allowed for me and for her. So she told me that I understood her false and she wish that im not turning my back to her totally.
Im feeling also that it was not right from me to have any relation to her. Please give me advise, ( also generally what should I do if I want to marry an women from an non muslims family, bec there I cannot follow the ordinary path ;asking her parents ) and make Dua for me and for all muslims
Jiazzaka ALLAHU khair

assalamu allaikum wrwb mufti shab

i am sirajudeen from madurai(tamil nadu). now i am working in mohamed

sathak engineering college kilakarai ramanadu dist.

insha allah june r july my nikkah . still now v dint fix the date.

i am having some doubts in nikkah in first night. after entering bed room

shall i give mushaba and mulakath with my wife r not. reply

and then i read one islamic book in that husband and wife has to do

nafeel namaz (2). i want to do jamath r seperatly reply.,

ok...forgive me for my stupidness;

in the quran, it tells us to lower gaze; how are we supposed to find a marriage partner?

jazakallah

I have been seeing a girl for some time and want to marry her insha'Allah. My parents are totally against and have told me to pick her or my parents. Naturally, I have been forced to pick my parents as Allah subhana watala says that parents are first. I am trying to live life without her but I know that I can never forget her and she will always be in my heart. No mater where I get married she will be with me. Can I chose to get married to this girl regardless of what my parents have said. Insha?Allah hope that some day after they will forgive me.

How d u look 4 a wife in a halal way 2 get married

A.Salaam,

I have heard that marriage is sunnah but that it is also half of of our deen. I know a few muslim men who have never married but never heard of a muslim women who never married.

I understand most peoples arguments about the benefit's of marriage for women but what about the women who are just not ment to be married because they will not be able to handle the situation. Is it possibile for a muslim women to stay in the path of her faith and not marry because she fears that she will not be a good wife or a good mother.

This is a question that has been in my mind for a very long time and I would be greatful if you could give me some answers or advice.

W.Salaam

Assalmaualeakum w.w
Istikharah is done when a person is not sure about something and seeks guidance from allah. Is that correct?
For instance if a proposal comes and you like the person is there a need to do istikharah.

JAZAKALLAH

Asalam o Alikum,

Dear All,

If a girl sign on divorce papers without her consent under the pressure of her parents ( her life fear), whether it would be effected. Point to be noted is that the girl consider those papers just as a piece of paper and nothing more and contesting the case in court. But what is the reality of this islamically. Also the girl was given right to divorce husband in Nikhanama. Now the lawyer claiming that islamically that divorce is effective whether the girl accepted it or not but she signed it thats it.

Would appreciate if some one can provide some supportive document also that can be used i.e Fatwa, law etc.

Many Thanks,

Salamz!
I read on the askimam.com wesite that nikkah can be done without the parents if they refuse. What is your opinion on this?

as-salaam mu alaikum,
i have done istikhaara for a marraige proposal and in my dream i saw that my marraige ceremony and everything was arranged and that my mum was telling me that the guy is very good and of good character but in my dream i did'nt see the person i will marry it was someone different, please kindly explain if this is good or bad..... jazakallah salaam, may allah bless you!

Assalamualykum Muft Sahib...Please can you advise what the situation is in regards to asset sharing if a wife and husband seperate from their marriage? My wife's sister has recently had to seperate, after giving her husband several chances to amend his ways. They have asked my advice on several matters, but I cannot advise without finding out the facts myself. I have listed below:

1. When their marital home was sold several months ago, after reconciling from a previous seperation, ?30,000 or so was realised as profit. He gave ?15,000 to her as her share, and kept a similar amount himself. After their last and sadly final split, he has asked for this money back saying it is his. Is this correct? Is she entitled to this amount according to shariaa, and if not, what amount or asset split is a wife entitled to if a marriage fails? He has always paid the payments for the house before.

2. In his will, he has left everything to their 2 yr old daughter. This was because he sadly attracted cancer, and was not sure of pulling through. Is this correct, and if not, what is the correct procedure for a husbands will towards his wife and daughter? They have no son.

3. In her will, she has placed a request that if she was to pass away, then my wife would become her daughters full guardian? Agiain, is this request correct, and if not, what would be the correct request? Would her husband have first rights etc.

Thank you for your help in this matter specific to their situation. I would also be grateful if you could advise on the general ruling on assets sharing in shariaa, when a marriage fails, especially in regards to property and money.