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Validation of nikkah

Last updated: 22nd August 2023
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Assalamualaikum, me and this man want to get married but we have an issue which is my dad, so my situation is, a wali is needed for a valid marriage, but my dad, he is a disbeliever, and he’s been my abuser for my whole life, he’s tortured my mum, he’s controlling, he is hurtful, he is inhumane, he would never give permission for me and this man’s marriage, because he wants to choose and be in control of my life, he would destroy my life, and as he is a disbeliever, he cannot be my wali from the opinion i follow, so my grandfather has passed away, my brother is too young, the only person i have is my half uncle, but he wouldn’t give permission as he is on my dads side, he wouldn’t do anything to betray him, if i were to tell my dad about this, he will hurt me, he would never let me go, i am moving far away from him now, im going to university long long away, and i want to do a nikkah with this man, he is a good muslim, and a good person, and once i’ve moved completely away from my dad, i will tell him then, because he would not be able to hurt me physically, emotionally or financially, would this nikkah be valid? i’ll be able to have 2 male witnesses, but i’ve seen that a wali can be an imam or anyone from the community if i don’t have anyone else, please help us, we have tried for months to find someone to ask and make what we have halal, but no one has responded, please understand the situation because my dad has been my biggest test from Allah, and this marriage? he would never ever give permission, and he will ruin my life as well as my whole family’s and his family too

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

A non Muslim father can’t be a Wali in Nikah but an Imam can, even though a girl who is an adult and sane can do her own Nikah without her Wali.

So It is necessary that the contract of Nikah takes place in the same Majlis (gathering) with two parties wherein two witnesses are present and they listen to the Offer and Acceptance.

The witnesses must be two male. If they are not available then one male and two female. Allah says in Quran

وَ اسۡتَشۡہِدُوۡا شَہِیۡدَیۡنِ مِنۡ رِّجَالِکُمۡ ۚ فَاِنۡ لَّمۡ یَکُوۡنَا رَجُلَیۡنِ فَرَجُلٌ وَّ امۡرَاَتٰنِ مِمَّنۡ تَرۡضَوۡنَ مِنَ الشُّہَدَآءِ اَنۡ تَضِلَّ اِحۡدٰٮہُمَا فَتُذَکِّرَ اِحۡدٰٮہُمَا الۡاُخۡرٰی

if two men be not available, then one man and two women, of such as you like as witnesses, so that if either of the two women should be in danger of forgetting, the other may refresh her memory.(2:283)

وينعقد نكاح الحرة البالغة العاقلة علي رضائها وإن لم يعقد عليها ولي بكرا كانت أو ثيبا عند أبي حنيفة و أبي يوسف في ظاهر الرواية…..وفيه لا ولاية لكافر علي مسلم لقوله تعالي ولن يجعل الله للكافرين علي المؤمنين سبيلا ولهذا لا تقبل شهادته عليه ولايتورثان
(الهداية ٢/٣١٨)

إن الوكيل في النكاح معبر وسفير والتمانع في الحقوق دون التعبير ولا ترجع الحقوق إليه بخلاف البيع لأنه مباشر حتي رجعت الحقوق إليه
(البحر الرائق ٣/١٣٦)

وينعقد متلبسا بايجاب من أحدهما وقبول من الأخر وضعا للمضي الخ وفيه أيضا وشرط حضور شاهدين حرين مكلفين سامعين قولهما معا علي الأصح ملخصا
(رد المحتار, 3\9-12,سعيد)

And Allah knows best

09 Rabiul Awwal 1445/ 24 September 2023

Answer last updated on:
26th September 2023
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Location: London