i have noticed over quite some years now, that men (some alims but mainly non-alims) dont want to marry female scholars. this is due to the fear of the the wife telling the husband whats wrong & whats not. basically, the wife knowing her rights where the husband, the in-laws etc.stand.
the thing is, i have not only heard it from my male relatives who are haafiz or learned to an extent, but also from a moulana saying he doesnt want an alima daughter-inlaw beacuase he thinks that alimas are lazy. (because the daughter-inlaw is aware of how much or how little she can do for inlaws with regards to serving them by foot & hand)
or that she will deny the husband his likings or dislikings because she is fully aware of islamic rules. i think that men feel threatened.
isnt this wrong? shouldnt a husband look for deen in a wife? i want to send my daughter to a jamea to do the full course if she can, or as many/little years as she can. but i feel threatened that my daughter will not be marriage material for many decent men.
what is your humble opinion?