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Last updated: 6th December 2005
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So far twice divorce has taken place in our marriage . I am frequent visitor of your website i have another question on divorce .

Today i wanted to have sex with my wife and she was not in mood i tried to convince her but she was not ready for it , then without any intention or will i uttered words without having the will to utter some what like , as a question " Harram hai Tu Mere par" if i translate this in English it would be like "Haraam you are for me" or " Haraam are you for me" i think it could go both way but my intention was certainly not to make her haraam on me and neither i wanted to utter these words it all just happened(Since she was refusing sex) no way it was in my mind any thing else

Please let me know does it have any effect on my marriage my intention was not to make her harram on me and i intended to make comment as a question to her. Secondly i am also not 100% sure that such words were uttered as they happened to come out of my mouth without my control but looks like more likely i uttered as such


Al-jawab billahi at-taufeeq (the answer with Allah's guidance)

Nowadays the word Haraam is a clear indicative word of Talaaq. Therefore if one stated that " You are haraam for me" then one Talaaq would be effective irrespective of your intention. However if the wording was such that you asked her a question like " Kiyaa Haraam hai tu mere par" then this would not construe a divorce.

And Only Allah Ta'ala Knows Best.

Answer last updated on:
17th October 2007
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Ulamaa ID 04
Location: London