Marriage - General

During my nikkah I had my dad and my uncle as witnesses and there were other people around.
Due to the chaos i feel like I wasn’t properly listening to the Nikkah contract when it was being read out loud. I do recall hearing my husbands name and the mahr amount and his address but I don’t remember it all word for word. Obviously I said qabool. Is my Nikkah valid?

I am a paranoid person, just for some context.

I want to get married civil but we are married islamically but my wife does not want to get married civil because in the civil marriage in france its says about divorce but i have no choice because then i would come illegally in france because i am from the uk and there is no other way i can come illegally if we dont marry civil in france and i have no choice please help me to make my wife understand

Salam, i needed a question answered. Me and my partner are getting married soon Insha’Allah and the suggestion of Mehr Fatimi came when we were discussing mehr. Upon research ive come to find there are two opinions, one states it as 480 dirhams converted to silver tola and one states it as 400 mithqaal converted to silver tola. My question is, why is there disparity and which amount is correct or most acceptable?

Assalamualaikum,
I am seeking guidance regarding a potential marriage. The woman I wish to marry has a Christian Protestant father and a Hindu mother. She personally follows a monotheistic belief system, has stopped idol worshipping, and is gravitating towards Christianity. While she is currently not ready to convert to Islam, she has expressed openness to learning about Islam and possibly embracing it in the future. We have discussed raising our future children according to Islamic principles, and she already adheres to several Islamic practices, such as avoiding pork, usury, and alcohol. However, as of now, she is not ready to formally convert.

Given her background and current beliefs, is it permissible for me to marry her? Will her family background, specifically her Hindu mother, pose any issues according to Islamic teachings? Any guidance on how to proceed would be greatly appreciated.

Salam Sheikh, is it permissible to use my mother's name and date of birth when doing Istikhara for marriage? The other family hasn't met me or my family even once, yet they performed Istikhara based on my name, date of birth, and my mother's name.

Additionally, someone interpreted their dreams and shared some future insights about me.

I wanted to ask if this is an authentic way of performing Istikhara or not.

JazakAllah

Salam, I did Istikhara on whether or not I will get married in this dunya. I asked generally i don’t have anyone to marry nor any prospects. I didn’t get a change in my life or dream etc. should I interpret this as I won’t get married in this dunya? On one day I did see a bad dream. I do have a feeling of despair going on should I just accept this as my reality and not make dua for it.

If one has sinned, like any one of the major sins. They have repented and made changes to their life. Are they allowed to marry? Are there any sins that stops a Muslim woman from marrying?

Selamu Aleykum,

I apologize for the long question but I have many which I cannot find answers to, I would greatly appreciate your help!

I am Turkish living in the US, living in an area with next to no muslims at the moment (we only have a small mesjid and all the women are married), and plan to propose to a pious Christian girl I know,� named H.� We have both spoken to each other about it and agree we are a good fit; elhamdulillah she is chaste, she respects Islam very much and has promised we will raise the children Muslim.

The first issue is in finding her Wali.� Her father unfortunately passed away two years ago, and she has no surviving paternal male relatives that know her well enough to represent her, she only has sisters, and her mother has two brothers she knows *at all* but I have read maternal relatives cannot represent her.�

I have also read that in our Fiqh, the woman does not need a Wali to represent her, which may solve the problem but I don't know how accurate that information is.

The second issue is in the proposal itself.�

First, Is it Sunnah to recite Khutbat Al-Hajaah when I propose or only at the marriage ceremony?�

Second, I feel I should�ask�her mother, as her parent even though she is not a Wali.� Is this necessary and should I�ask�her and the Wali together with H or can I�ask�them separately before, and�ask�H after I get their permission?�

Third, in my country we give lots of nice gifts as the mahr, which I would like to do, but I have read that you don't give a mahr to a kitabi in some fiqhs, what is our fiqh's position on this?

Finally are there any other sunnets or requirements I am missing?

Thank you so much for your help, barakallah

Selamu Aleykum,

I have a question regarding the Hanafi ruling on a woman of "legal peerage" and marrying without a Wali.

Currently, I am set to get married to a Christian woman, though I have not officially proposed because I have had immense trouble finding her wali/if she even has one. Her father unfortunately passed away a few years ago, and she has no brothers to speak of, being from an all-girls family.

She barely knows any of the men on her father's side of the family, and of her mother's, both of the uncles she knows even remotely well she does not feel comfortable to represent her; and, as far as I understand it, a Wali must know the woman well enough to make a proper decision for her well-being.

In trying to figure this out, whether an Islamic authority should preside as her Wali etc. I came to find the ruling in our Fiqh stating a woman of "legal peerage" could be married without the permission or presence of a guardian.

I told her about this during conversation, and she said she was relieved because she "did not feel comfortable with anyone she knew other than her dad being her guardian, anyway."

Knowing this, I've been searching for any other information to confirm if this is possible or not, as I want her to feel comfortable and accommodated. It seems in most legal respects she is my equal - ie of sound mind, adult, etc. but that is all I could find. I'm not sure if there is any information missing and - most crucially - I cannot find any information especially regarding her status of equality as a *kitabi* under the Shari'a for this purpose.

So according to the ruling mentioned, is she considered my legal peer? Does it apply as well to Dhimmi or is it only applicable to a Muslimah, and are there any details I am missing? I am trying to do this right and make sure we are right in the eyes of Allah.

Finally, if she is *not* my legal peer, who on earth can be her wali?

Jazakhallah Khairun

This is something that is causing me to lose faith in Islam. I understand that Islam allows child marriage and learned that it allows consummation with a bride who is prepubescent, even if they are not 9:

The fact that it is permissible to marry a young girl does not mean that it is permissible to have intercourse with her; rather that should not be done until she is able for it. For that reason the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) delayed the consummation of his marriage to ‘Aa’ishah. Al-Nawawi said: With regard to the wedding-party of a young married girl at the time of consummating the marriage, if the husband and the guardian of the girl agree upon something that will not cause harm to the young girl, then that may be done. If they disagree, then Ahmad and Abu ‘Ubayd say that once a girl reaches the age of nine then the marriage may be consummated even without her consent, but that does not apply in the case of who is younger. Maalik, al-Shaafa’i and Abu Haneefah said: the marriage may be consummated when the girl is able for intercourse, which varies from one girl to another, so no age limit can be set. This is the correct view. There is nothing in the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah to set an age limit, or to forbid that in the case of a girl who is able for it before the age of nine, or to allow it in the case of a girl who is not able for it and has reached the age of nine. Al-Dawoodi said: ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) was reached physical maturity (at the time when her marriage was consummated).

Sharh Muslim, 9/206

واختلفوا في وقت الدخول بالصغيرة فقيل لا يدخل بها ما لم تبلغ وقيل يدخل بها إذا بلغت تسع سنين ، كذا في البحر الرائق .

وأكثر المشايخ على أنه لا عبرة للسن في هذا الباب وإنما العبرة للطاقة إن كانت ضخمة سمينة تطيق الرجال ولا يخاف عليها المرض من ذلك ؛ كان للزوج أن يدخل بها ، وإن لم تبلغ تسع سنين ، وإن كانت نحيفة مهزولة لا تطيق الجماع ويخاف عليها المرض لا يحل للزوج أن يدخل بها ، وإن كبر سنها وهو الصحيح

and this is causing me doubts because medical knowledge shows there is much harms associated with early intercourse and pregnancies. I read that today while child marriage may not be allowed, it is only a temporary change and not ethical one and the ruling still exits. Lastly, history shows past societies had limits, laws and advised against early consummation and pregnancies as they were aware of the harms and risks with it. Thus I wonder why does Allah who is all knowing allow something that's harmful

Dear Sir/Madam
Hope this email finds you well.
I would like to receive some Shariah Law advice and Guidance on what can be done given the individual situation I face.
Here is an overview of my case:
1. I am male, Muslim, age 33 years old.
2. I am in an unofficial relationship with a Christian lady, currently age 34 years old.
3. We have known each other and have been together in a relationship for almost 3 years now. We are not yet married as per Shariah Law.
4. There have been multiple occasions where we slept together (basically having sexual intercourse).
5. This time, however, due to a mistake with the condom (contraceptive measure), the lady has conceived. Recently, she did not have her period. It was supposed to be last week on 3rd March 2024, and today 10th March 2024 she has done the homemade pregnancy test, and the apparent result is that she is pregnant.
6. I took her to the hospital to cross-check the home test pregnancy results. The doctor has done an ultrasonic check, but she could not find the embryo yet. Today she has done the blood test to check for the hormonal change. We will be back at the hospital this Tuesday 12th March 2024 to check on the results.
7. At the moment, as a 33 years old male, I am capable of supporting the lady and the child if this is confirmed.
8. However, given the fact that I am Muslim and that, of course, my family will not accept children born out of wedlock, I need to proceed with the medical abortion. This is whilst knowing that the embryo did not fully develop and this happened recently, and falls within the period of less than 10 weeks from the time of conception.
I am not sure on what should be done given the above case. I would highly appreciate your advise from a shariah law point of view and any guidance on how to handle such a situation.
Also, I would like to add the following;
My mother does not approve of the lady because she is a Christian and she is from a far eastern Asian country. She did not get the chance to meet her, however, I made 2-3 requests to my mum to try and understand, but she declined all the time. My request to my mum to get married to this lady has happened well before, I got the news that she is pregnant because of a faulty contraceptive protection mechanism.
May Allah guide us to the right path.
Thank you in advance for your time and cooperation.

My brother lives in Saudi Arabia due to his job, and he has conducted the nikah with a girl from India. The nikah occurred via video/voice call in the girl's neighborhood Mosque/Masjid, with witnesses and the imam etc from both families present. The groom has fulfilled all mehr obligations. The nikah was accepted by both families, and the bride and groom confirmed their acceptance through phone calls or witnesses. Now, the groom plans for the bride to come directly to Saudi Arabia. Both the bride and groom, along with their families, agree, but the groom doesn't intend to hold a walima or ruksati ceremony. Is it acceptable in Islam for the groom to take the girl directly to Saudi Arabia, considering they are nikkahfied? And is their marriage/nikah valid?

Salam.
I will try to be very short as required. I am 21 years old, and there is a guy, also 26 years old this year. We both are Muslims. We want to get married, but my parents don�t agree. My parent's disagreement isn�t based on Islam but on issues like caste and status. I pray 5 times a day, but sometimes unfortunately I do skip my prayers, but I try to pray as we should. I wear a hijab and try to follow Islam as much as possible. I stay far from him so basically we are long distance. My parents don't agree with me marrying him at first it is because of the long distance and second is based on caste and status. My parents don't believe in love marriage as long distance. I am staying with my family in America but he is from Pakistan. I tried to talk to them but still they would disagree with me and use a lot of bad words that made me cry a lot. I know as a Muslim person, we shouldn't fight or talk back to our parents but still, they are not open-minded to Pakistani people because they're scared that they will hurt their daughter's heart. In my point of view, not most people will do the same things because I believe there is more love in marriage than fight
Is there any wazifa or what should I do to make our marriage approved by my parents?

My name is aslam and her name is afreen we live in different state and we are cousin and follow hanafi fiqh. So one day we decided to make nikah of us without wali
So my two frnd(A and B) with me as a witness and she is in video call she make a wakeel of her on a behalf and we do ijabo qabool with certain amount of mehr is my nikah valid plz tell as soon as possible

Is the nikah valid if the name of the biological father of the girl is not mentioned in case the brides father missing or unknown or for any other reason. Please advise. Is it permissible to use adopted father’s name instead.

I am writing to seek your esteemed guidance on a matter that has been weighing heavily on my heart. I am a Sayeddah and have been practicing Islam throughout my life. Recently, I have expressed my intention to marry a Muslim convert who has devoted many years to the practice of Islam.
However, my father, despite the gentleman's adherence to Islam, objects to the union on grounds unrelated to Islamic principles. He cites the convert's non-Muslim origin, Pakistani background, and lack of a Muslim family as reasons for his disapproval. I am struggling to reconcile his decision with Islamic teachings, which emphasize the importance of a partner's faith rather than lineage.
Given my Sayeddah status, I am particularly interested in understanding the conditions for a Wali in this scenario. How does Islam view a marriage proposal from a Muslim convert, and what guidance can you provide regarding the role of a Wali in such circumstances?
I am earnestly seeking your wisdom and expertise to navigate this situation in accordance with Islamic principles. Your guidance will be immensely appreciated as I strive to find a resolution that aligns with both my faith and familial relationships.
JazakAllah Khair for your time and consideration.

Assalamu Alaikum. Need help in finding out Iddah end date and hour-

A friend of mine lost her husband at around 10PM of Oct 23rd, 2023. So in Hijri, that should be 8 Rabi al-Akhar/Rabi al-Thani, 1445. Adding 4 Islamic calendar months + 10 lunar days, my friend's Iddah should be over on 18 Sha'ban, 1445, i.e., 28th Feb, 2024.

Is my calculation and denomination of the dates correct, e.g., (a) Is there any inaccuracy in denoting 10PM of 23rd Oct as 8 Rabi al-Akhar (since it's lunar calendar, will it be 9 Rabi al-Akhar)? (b) Will the Iddah ending be on 18 Sha'ban or 19 Sha'ban and at what hour?

There is a girl who wants to marry me. She is gentle and prays regularly, but she doesn't wear hijab. I told her unless she wears the hijab I don't want to marry her because I don't want to share any sin and moreover I don't feel comfortable. We have known each other for many years.
Am I doing the right thing? Or should I marry her and give her time? She said she might wear hijab in the future anyways but she doesn't know when. Please advise.

Hello, I’m a converted Muslim (Hanafi) and I live in Turkey. I converted to Islam 2 years ago (I was Protestant). I wear hijab and I live following all the Sunnahs from our Prophet (SAW). I met my boyfriend a year ago, we are so in love like we have never felt in our lives and we both want to marry. But he is already married and has 3 kids, ages 4, 8 and 13. He has been in an unhappy marriage for years just for the sake of the kids but he doesn’t want to divorce his wife because it’s something extremely bad from where he is and he could lose his kids custody. His family doesn’t know of my existence but his wife obviously knows that there is someone else in his life since he doesn't spend any time with her, they don't sleep together... she is fine with that as long as he provides for the family since she is a housewife. He is a wealthy and very generous man, and he cares a lot for his children and I know that if he would divorce he would still support them financially. My case is different since I have a job, but he also supports me a lot. He asked me to do the Nikah with me even though 2nd marriage isn’t allowed in Turkey. I want to marry him more than anything but I don't know what I should do. I'm in my 30s and he's in his 40s so we are not kids. Thank you

Assalaamu'alykum
I am a divorced women who now wants to marry but my family are not allowing me to marry the guy i have got to know as they have heard he maybe involved with drugs however there are also other sources that have said the groom doesn't have bad habits and isn't involved with drugs but my family won't accept that so are stopping me from getting married so all my walis are preventing me from getting married. What can i do? Can i marry without a wali and have the imaam as my guardian?