Marriage - General

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh,

I would like to ask about the validity of my marriage (nikah).

My husband and his entire family were previously members of the Ahmadi (Qadiani) community. About 10 years ago, my husband and his immediate family formally accepted Sunni Islam. They signed the official declaration in Pakistan, confirming their belief in the finality of the Prophethood of Muhammad ﷺ and rejecting Mirza Ghulam Ahmad’s claims.

Since their conversion, they have been practicing as Sunni Muslims — offering prayers in Sunni mosques, fasting in Ramadan, giving zakat, etc.

I myself am Sunni Muslim by birth and belief.

Our nikah was performed about one year ago, long after his conversion, and by a Sunni imam.

Recently, when I informed my parents of his and his family’s past Ahmadi background, they became very concerned. They are unsure if the conversion is genuine or if my marriage remains Islamically valid.

My questions are:
1. Given that my husband and his family converted around 10 years ago and affirm full belief in Sunni Islam, is our nikah valid and halal?

Thankyou

Asalamualaikum hope you are well may Allah reward you,
I’ve been told by a mufti in the shariah council in England that if a man hypothetically was to say “if you don’t do this you are “ and if he says the word to his wife if he did it to make her do something or a threat it doesn’t count, just double checking according to hanafi lmk please?

Also according to hanafi what if they forget if the condition even happened ?

Furthermore if a man says the word as his wife is menstruating can he take her back on the same day even as she menstruates?

Asalamualaikum hope you are well ,

My wife has been abusing me for months, yesterday i said to her “you’re” and then the word.

I then took her back saying “I take you back as my wife” . I wanna know what’s the process, she was on her period or just about to finish, this is the only time it has or ever happened, do I need to say specific wording or is what I said sufficient and just checking do I also need to be intimate with her asap.

Thank you for your time May Allah reward you

Asalamualaikum , hope you are well and may Allah reward you, there’s a few scenarios I want you to put me in peace in writing, I already went on a molvi for shariah council but I just wanted to clarify on writing so im mentioning the full story, here are a few things said:I had no intention for any I just wanted to talk to her or just wanted her to listen to me

1. I said to my wife: “Come here or you are divorced.” She came I think after a small hesitation and then walked away. I feel like she came instantly but I’m not sure. I’m worried as I never said for her to keep on walking with me once she comes next to me but I did want that but she walked away after fulfilling. Please clarify regarding the fact she didn’t keep walking ?
2. In the first situation, I am not sure if I also said “right now.” If I did say that and she came after a short hesitation, is that nothing to worry about please can you answer this hypothetically?
3. I said: “Give me your phone password or you are divorced.” She refused/ kept hesitating at first, but then gave it within 5–15 minutes. Closer to 5, i just wanted to phone passwoed in that day I think specifically thought within today I only wanted the password, not divorce. Does the fact she hesitated and refused for a while do anything?
4. I don’t actually remember this but I’m not sure but My wife says (although she’s not even fully sure) that I once said: “Come down right now or you are divorced.” She says she went on her phone first, then came down. I remember she came down when I asked within a reasonable time according to me and I didn’t worry or be scared , but I’m scared as she told me she went on her phone If I did say this, would that be a divorce? I never ever said anything or thought about her going on her phone I just wanted her to come downstairs and she came like a normal time. Please May you answer hypothetically regarding the fact she went on her phone?
5. I think I might have said: “Open the gate or you are divorced.” But I honestly don’t remember if I said this, or if she even opened the gate. Does this count as divorce? She said she opened the gate and again I don’t think she’s even sure if I said it, just please May you answer me hypothetically.
6. There was CCTV in that place on the gate, and I once tried to get the footage to check If she opened the gate, but the establishment they didn’t give it to me. The incident happened over a year ago and I tried to get the footage over a year ago and since then we have moved properties in the same town Should I try harder to get it, or should I stop worrying about it?


I never wanted anything to do with leaving in any of this I just wanted to talk to her and never had any intention of divorce Please May you help me out and may Allah reward you.

Salamu Alaikum Warahmetullahi,

I would deeply appreciate any recommendation about my family's situation. I became a practicing muslim 3 years ago at the age 39, my husband of 16 years who believes in One God and knows few Surah like Al-Fatihah is not a practising muslim. We have three children together, 13, 9 and 5. Recently I have become distressed due to the reason that some imams, with all of my respect, order to women (wives) like me to divorce their husbands unless they convert to practicing muslims.
I have been trying to teach him about the Quran and the rules of it, but he won't believe me. He is a good person otherwise, very responsible and a hardworking men. He is a Muslim, but not a practicing one.

Overall we get along well, Elhamdylilah. If I had to divorce him in our 40s, all family members will suffer tremendously and I cannot imagine myself at this age restarting another potential family. But even living on my own without seeing and looking after the children it would be extremely hard emotionally and financially as we are immigrants in the country we live in. He spends most of the time at work and doesn't prohibits me from practising Islam. I would greatly, greatly appreciate your suggestion considering the Islamic knowledge as I fear I might be wrong and my Salah and other good deeds may not be accepted by the Almighty.

Thank you a lot and sincerely for reading my message and let's help each other for the sake of Allah, as this concern has taken an emotional toll on me. I wholeheartedly want to follow Allah's guidance. Insha'Allah, Ameen!


Looking forward to your suggestions!

JazakAllahu khairan!

Asalam u alikom warahmatullah wabarakatu
I have a question.
Can I marry my mom's cousin who's stepmom breastfed my mom but not his biological mom in that time we both were not born.

Thank you and have a great day

Asalamu alaykum,

I've met a woman this semester at university with whom I've taken an interest in. However, there are a few years left before I graduate and begin to work, so it is too early for me to discuss marriage. Would it be acceptable for me to inform her that I am interested in asking for her father's contact information one to two years from now for the purpose of discussing marriage? If this is halal, please advise on what wording I should use and what I should avoid.

Jazaka Allah khair

There is this girl whom I was once in a ḥarām relationship with. Unfortunately, we committed zina multiple times. We cut each other off in 2021, and I sincerely repented to Allāh for my mistakes. I also told her that “I swear to Allāh that I will never be with her again”. Unfortunately, I also said this out of anger and not in a good mental state. Presently, me and this girl have been in contact again (not dating at all) and I was wondering, would it be permissible to marry this woman? I only ask because she exhibits exceptional qualities that a good mother/wife exhibit, and she also treats her family very well. She is also in a good mental state as well.

During my nikkah I had my dad and my uncle as witnesses and there were other people around.
Due to the chaos i feel like I wasn’t properly listening to the Nikkah contract when it was being read out loud. I do recall hearing my husbands name and the mahr amount and his address but I don’t remember it all word for word. Obviously I said qabool. Is my Nikkah valid?

I am a paranoid person, just for some context.

I want to get married civil but we are married islamically but my wife does not want to get married civil because in the civil marriage in france its says about divorce but i have no choice because then i would come illegally in france because i am from the uk and there is no other way i can come illegally if we dont marry civil in france and i have no choice please help me to make my wife understand

Salam, i needed a question answered. Me and my partner are getting married soon Insha’Allah and the suggestion of Mehr Fatimi came when we were discussing mehr. Upon research ive come to find there are two opinions, one states it as 480 dirhams converted to silver tola and one states it as 400 mithqaal converted to silver tola. My question is, why is there disparity and which amount is correct or most acceptable?

Assalamualaikum,
I am seeking guidance regarding a potential marriage. The woman I wish to marry has a Christian Protestant father and a Hindu mother. She personally follows a monotheistic belief system, has stopped idol worshipping, and is gravitating towards Christianity. While she is currently not ready to convert to Islam, she has expressed openness to learning about Islam and possibly embracing it in the future. We have discussed raising our future children according to Islamic principles, and she already adheres to several Islamic practices, such as avoiding pork, usury, and alcohol. However, as of now, she is not ready to formally convert.

Given her background and current beliefs, is it permissible for me to marry her? Will her family background, specifically her Hindu mother, pose any issues according to Islamic teachings? Any guidance on how to proceed would be greatly appreciated.

Salam Sheikh, is it permissible to use my mother's name and date of birth when doing Istikhara for marriage? The other family hasn't met me or my family even once, yet they performed Istikhara based on my name, date of birth, and my mother's name.

Additionally, someone interpreted their dreams and shared some future insights about me.

I wanted to ask if this is an authentic way of performing Istikhara or not.

JazakAllah

Salam, I did Istikhara on whether or not I will get married in this dunya. I asked generally i don’t have anyone to marry nor any prospects. I didn’t get a change in my life or dream etc. should I interpret this as I won’t get married in this dunya? On one day I did see a bad dream. I do have a feeling of despair going on should I just accept this as my reality and not make dua for it.

If one has sinned, like any one of the major sins. They have repented and made changes to their life. Are they allowed to marry? Are there any sins that stops a Muslim woman from marrying?

Selamu Aleykum,

I apologize for the long question but I have many which I cannot find answers to, I would greatly appreciate your help!

I am Turkish living in the US, living in an area with next to no muslims at the moment (we only have a small mesjid and all the women are married), and plan to propose to a pious Christian girl I know,� named H.� We have both spoken to each other about it and agree we are a good fit; elhamdulillah she is chaste, she respects Islam very much and has promised we will raise the children Muslim.

The first issue is in finding her Wali.� Her father unfortunately passed away two years ago, and she has no surviving paternal male relatives that know her well enough to represent her, she only has sisters, and her mother has two brothers she knows *at all* but I have read maternal relatives cannot represent her.�

I have also read that in our Fiqh, the woman does not need a Wali to represent her, which may solve the problem but I don't know how accurate that information is.

The second issue is in the proposal itself.�

First, Is it Sunnah to recite Khutbat Al-Hajaah when I propose or only at the marriage ceremony?�

Second, I feel I should�ask�her mother, as her parent even though she is not a Wali.� Is this necessary and should I�ask�her and the Wali together with H or can I�ask�them separately before, and�ask�H after I get their permission?�

Third, in my country we give lots of nice gifts as the mahr, which I would like to do, but I have read that you don't give a mahr to a kitabi in some fiqhs, what is our fiqh's position on this?

Finally are there any other sunnets or requirements I am missing?

Thank you so much for your help, barakallah

Selamu Aleykum,

I have a question regarding the Hanafi ruling on a woman of "legal peerage" and marrying without a Wali.

Currently, I am set to get married to a Christian woman, though I have not officially proposed because I have had immense trouble finding her wali/if she even has one. Her father unfortunately passed away a few years ago, and she has no brothers to speak of, being from an all-girls family.

She barely knows any of the men on her father's side of the family, and of her mother's, both of the uncles she knows even remotely well she does not feel comfortable to represent her; and, as far as I understand it, a Wali must know the woman well enough to make a proper decision for her well-being.

In trying to figure this out, whether an Islamic authority should preside as her Wali etc. I came to find the ruling in our Fiqh stating a woman of "legal peerage" could be married without the permission or presence of a guardian.

I told her about this during conversation, and she said she was relieved because she "did not feel comfortable with anyone she knew other than her dad being her guardian, anyway."

Knowing this, I've been searching for any other information to confirm if this is possible or not, as I want her to feel comfortable and accommodated. It seems in most legal respects she is my equal - ie of sound mind, adult, etc. but that is all I could find. I'm not sure if there is any information missing and - most crucially - I cannot find any information especially regarding her status of equality as a *kitabi* under the Shari'a for this purpose.

So according to the ruling mentioned, is she considered my legal peer? Does it apply as well to Dhimmi or is it only applicable to a Muslimah, and are there any details I am missing? I am trying to do this right and make sure we are right in the eyes of Allah.

Finally, if she is *not* my legal peer, who on earth can be her wali?

Jazakhallah Khairun

This is something that is causing me to lose faith in Islam. I understand that Islam allows child marriage and learned that it allows consummation with a bride who is prepubescent, even if they are not 9:

The fact that it is permissible to marry a young girl does not mean that it is permissible to have intercourse with her; rather that should not be done until she is able for it. For that reason the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) delayed the consummation of his marriage to ‘Aa’ishah. Al-Nawawi said: With regard to the wedding-party of a young married girl at the time of consummating the marriage, if the husband and the guardian of the girl agree upon something that will not cause harm to the young girl, then that may be done. If they disagree, then Ahmad and Abu ‘Ubayd say that once a girl reaches the age of nine then the marriage may be consummated even without her consent, but that does not apply in the case of who is younger. Maalik, al-Shaafa’i and Abu Haneefah said: the marriage may be consummated when the girl is able for intercourse, which varies from one girl to another, so no age limit can be set. This is the correct view. There is nothing in the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah to set an age limit, or to forbid that in the case of a girl who is able for it before the age of nine, or to allow it in the case of a girl who is not able for it and has reached the age of nine. Al-Dawoodi said: ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) was reached physical maturity (at the time when her marriage was consummated).

Sharh Muslim, 9/206

واختلفوا في وقت الدخول بالصغيرة فقيل لا يدخل بها ما لم تبلغ وقيل يدخل بها إذا بلغت تسع سنين ، كذا في البحر الرائق .

وأكثر المشايخ على أنه لا عبرة للسن في هذا الباب وإنما العبرة للطاقة إن كانت ضخمة سمينة تطيق الرجال ولا يخاف عليها المرض من ذلك ؛ كان للزوج أن يدخل بها ، وإن لم تبلغ تسع سنين ، وإن كانت نحيفة مهزولة لا تطيق الجماع ويخاف عليها المرض لا يحل للزوج أن يدخل بها ، وإن كبر سنها وهو الصحيح

and this is causing me doubts because medical knowledge shows there is much harms associated with early intercourse and pregnancies. I read that today while child marriage may not be allowed, it is only a temporary change and not ethical one and the ruling still exits. Lastly, history shows past societies had limits, laws and advised against early consummation and pregnancies as they were aware of the harms and risks with it. Thus I wonder why does Allah who is all knowing allow something that's harmful

Dear Sir/Madam
Hope this email finds you well.
I would like to receive some Shariah Law advice and Guidance on what can be done given the individual situation I face.
Here is an overview of my case:
1. I am male, Muslim, age 33 years old.
2. I am in an unofficial relationship with a Christian lady, currently age 34 years old.
3. We have known each other and have been together in a relationship for almost 3 years now. We are not yet married as per Shariah Law.
4. There have been multiple occasions where we slept together (basically having sexual intercourse).
5. This time, however, due to a mistake with the condom (contraceptive measure), the lady has conceived. Recently, she did not have her period. It was supposed to be last week on 3rd March 2024, and today 10th March 2024 she has done the homemade pregnancy test, and the apparent result is that she is pregnant.
6. I took her to the hospital to cross-check the home test pregnancy results. The doctor has done an ultrasonic check, but she could not find the embryo yet. Today she has done the blood test to check for the hormonal change. We will be back at the hospital this Tuesday 12th March 2024 to check on the results.
7. At the moment, as a 33 years old male, I am capable of supporting the lady and the child if this is confirmed.
8. However, given the fact that I am Muslim and that, of course, my family will not accept children born out of wedlock, I need to proceed with the medical abortion. This is whilst knowing that the embryo did not fully develop and this happened recently, and falls within the period of less than 10 weeks from the time of conception.
I am not sure on what should be done given the above case. I would highly appreciate your advise from a shariah law point of view and any guidance on how to handle such a situation.
Also, I would like to add the following;
My mother does not approve of the lady because she is a Christian and she is from a far eastern Asian country. She did not get the chance to meet her, however, I made 2-3 requests to my mum to try and understand, but she declined all the time. My request to my mum to get married to this lady has happened well before, I got the news that she is pregnant because of a faulty contraceptive protection mechanism.
May Allah guide us to the right path.
Thank you in advance for your time and cooperation.

My brother lives in Saudi Arabia due to his job, and he has conducted the nikah with a girl from India. The nikah occurred via video/voice call in the girl's neighborhood Mosque/Masjid, with witnesses and the imam etc from both families present. The groom has fulfilled all mehr obligations. The nikah was accepted by both families, and the bride and groom confirmed their acceptance through phone calls or witnesses. Now, the groom plans for the bride to come directly to Saudi Arabia. Both the bride and groom, along with their families, agree, but the groom doesn't intend to hold a walima or ruksati ceremony. Is it acceptable in Islam for the groom to take the girl directly to Saudi Arabia, considering they are nikkahfied? And is their marriage/nikah valid?