Salam
Since around 10 years of age I started masterbation and watching porn. This has caused me to have erectile dysfunction I am mentally and physically very weak and hollow on the inside.
I have noticed watching porn and masterbation is also leading me towards bisexuality. There is research to show watching porn can make people bisexual.
I've tried to stop watching porn and masterbation and even repented to Allah swt but even though I've erectile dysfunction I still have sexual desire towards women.
I can't get married because I've erectile dysfunction and pancreas liver issues heart and kidney issues etc.
I am also mentally very weak I simply can't handle the pressure of marriage and taking responsibility.
I have tried to get married but I fear Allah as I simply can't satisfy my wife due to ED so marriage seems out of question.
I can't watch porn or masterbate it will continue to make ED worse and I believe its causing me to become bisexual.
After I saw what porn and masterbation did to me I stopped these activities but I still have sexual desires
In the end I ended up falling into zina because if I thought if I do zina eventually I'll be able to get married as zina won't make my ED worse and as I'm not watching porn I am also saved from bisexuality
Now I have repented from zina watching porn and masterbation.
Please give me a solution to my problem I can't get married. Porn and masterbation causes bisexuality for me
zina that is major sin I don't want to do that.
What do I do I can't see any way out of this problem I'm 25 today since around I was 20 I've been asking Allah for help falling into sins repenting that falling back into sins
I asked a scholar for advise he said be patient
My question is how can I be patient?
My question is what do I do?
I feel hopeless I can't handle these sexual desires can I do zina as last resort?
Homosexuality is worse then zina so I can't watch porn or masterbate
Please make Dua for me and give me guidance jazak Allah khair
Firstly, you must stop all the sins and repent to Allah. Allah is most forgiving and most merciful.
The condition of Tawbah is to stop the sin, be remorseful and ashamed of the sin and make resolve that you will not return to the sin. This is sincere Tawbah.
It is better to pray two Rakah of Salah Al Tawbah.
O you who believe, turn to Allah with a faithful repentance. (66:8)
Even after you repented and you repeat the sin you must repent again.
Secondly, You need to acquire knowledge of Islam to recognize Allah and His Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم)
Follow the Sunnah, it will reshape and remould your soul. This will develop Taqwa (fear of Allah) in you. Your soul will be filled with light, you will be safe from sins. You will do righteous deeds with enjoyment and with the pleasure of Allah.
Say, ˹O Prophet,˺ “If you ˹sincerely˺ love Allah, then follow me; Allah will love you and forgive your sins. For Allah is All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”(Surah Aal Imran 3:31)
Do not be sad and you are not alone, Allah is with you. You will get through this and continue to have hope in Allah.
....."And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out, And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent." (Surah Talaq 65:3)
Allah loves you.
إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُتَوَكِّلِينَ
"Surely, Allah loves those who place their trust in Him." (Surah Aal Imran 3:159)
You must accept your fate Qadr and exercise Sabr (patience).
"No calamity befalls the earth or your own selves, but it is (pre-destined) in a Book before We bring it into being, Indeed it is easy for Allah." (Surah Al Hadid 57:22)
"When My servants ask you about Me, then (tell them that) I am near. I respond to the call of one when he prays to Me; so they should respond to Me, and have faith in Me, so that they may be on the right path." (Surah Baqarah 2:186)
"If Allah helps you, there is none to overcome you. And if He abandons you, then, who is there to help you after that? In Allah the believers should place their trust." (Aal Imran 3:160)
Reflect on these verses. Allah is Ar Razzaq (All Provider), He will provide for you with a spouse, InshaAllah. Be patient as Prophet (صلي الله عليه وسلم) said, “Allah has not granted anyone any gift more vast than patience.” (Abu Dawud)
