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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 21st March 2020 08:34
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Many of us find ourselves with more free time due to the coronavirus situation. May Allah forgive us, allow us to do tauba and protect us from this. I've heard that when people have free time it can lead to sin.

I was wondering how people plan to fill this time, what plans they have for personal development and any courses/ideas they could suggest.

Recently, I completed an online course on a website called coursera. Some of the courses on this website are free and others are not. The course I completed was free and it was called "learning how to learn".

It was broken down in to four weeks of learning and was very valuable. If I had to pay for it knowing I would gain what I have, I would.

The course goes through the different modes of learning, specifically focused mode and diffuse mode. Focus mode is where you study giving the material your undivided attention for a short period of time. You then deliberately go in to diffuse. Mode. This is where you take a break and allow the brain to make connections with what you have learnt.

A tip they offer for going through this is to use the pomedoro technique. This is where you choose a time limit of focussed learning after which you reward yourself. This is essentially to help you beat procrastination.

Example: I choose to study for 25 minutes giving the material my undivided attention. I then reward myself with a five minute break of walking, stretching, zikr or whatever I would like to make myself relaxed. Something to look forward to basically.

The idea is to give yourself a challenge of doing some pomedoro every day. So you can set yourself a target and say I will complete three pomedoro a day. That would mean three 25 minute sessions of study followed by your own choice of reward. It does not need to be 25 minutes, but that's a good suggestion in the course. It could be more or less.

The course is delivered by some professors. One of the professors is amongst the leading brain specialists in the world. He said one of the most important things in learning is exercise. This is because initially, scientists thought that all the neurons your brain needed were made while your were developing as a baby. However, recent studies suggest exercise also helps building neurons. So going on long runs is good. It also works wonders on lowering stress levels.

The course goes on. The above was a brief breakdown on week 1 of the course.

Let us make a timetable for ourselves and the children. When making a timetable I would suggest doing it via a mashwara with all the household. Here you can discuss rules, timings of activities, behaviour sanctions etc. Teachers sometimes create their classroom behaviour rules with their students. This works well because when students go against it, which they will. You can quickly reign them back in by telling them "remember that we made the rules together". These students want to see you are being fair. Have some timetable for physical activity, even if it's just in the house.

One valuable lesson I learnt from a shaikh was never get angry. The shaikh mentioned that he doesn't know much about the uk system of education other than what his children tell him. But he mentioned do not get angry. The fruits of this advice were unbelievable.

For example, have sanctions for poor behaviour, dont shout with rage inside you. The shaikh mentioned, if you are angry dont speak, wait for about thirty seconds to the nearest meaning. Then go with the sanction of the poor behaviour. So if in your rules you discussed that during study time if someone does not complete the work they will not get a full break then follow through with that sanction without shouting at them. Just mention, "these were our rules which we discussed".

Please use this thread to suggest ideas for adults and children during these times. Any good courses, material or whatever suggestions you can make would be valuable
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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 21st March 2020 08:42
Just a quick note

In my last post I mentioned
"So if in your rules you discussed that during study time if someone does not complete the work  they will not get a full break"

I would like to mention make sure they are trying. Sometimes they may not compete the work. As long as they are working well and concentrating, without disrupting unnecessarily.

If they didnt complete the work due to laziness that is a different matter. Then there should be a sanction
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 21st March 2020 15:43
Only those can remain steadfast, who have higher goals. The higher the goal the more steadfast you will remain.
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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 22nd March 2020 10:58
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At the same time, the higher the goals the more hurdles need crossing. So Sabr is also required
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#5 [Permalink] Posted on 22nd March 2020 20:01
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Yes indeed! Sabr is one of the main ingredients of steadfastness.
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#6 [Permalink] Posted on 23rd March 2020 09:36
And to attain sabr we need

1. Companionship of those who already have sabr.
2. We need to raise the quality of dhikr in order to attain peace.
3. We need to raise the quality of our recitation and understanding of Quran in order to attain peace as well as inspiration.
4. We need to raise the quality of our Salah in order to attain peace, prepare our body for discipline and sacrifice and also to train our subconscious mind to instill right and consistent thoughts.

Only a healthy and disciplined body with a soul in which there is peace and a mind which is focused on positive thoughts can make a person remain steadfast to attain a higher goal.
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#7 [Permalink] Posted on 25th March 2020 10:01
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1) Start memorising the Qur'an.

Mufti Shabbir Ahmad said, “All those who are at home due to the Coronavirus should spend their time wisely and start memorising the Quran. Some of our scholars memorised the entire Quran in jail.”

2) Learn Arabic.

Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (RA) is reported to have said: "Learn the Sunnah and Arabic. Learn to parse the Qur'an for it is written in Arabic."

In another version, he said: "Learn Arabic for it is part and parcel of your Religion."
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#8 [Permalink] Posted on 26th March 2020 16:52
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