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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 8th August 2019 00:33
Asalaam alekom. Can someone help me with it please.

1- before i was living a life of my Self. No prohibition in talking, nor in watching nor in Timing (now my time is distributed in different sections) before it was how i would like to spend. Waking up late and no particular routine. I was feeling all ME.

— I know its the right path. And i am happy. But i feel Lost. I dont know how to explain but i feel like i am not living for myself. I feel i have no feelings. Is it natural and the one who practice feels different or same?

2- Our life is all about fulfilling responsibilities? Like big part of the day is gone with fulfilling duties of others... but what about your own self? Parents take care of kids, kids of parents and wife of his family and so on? Is this called life?
This just came in my mind and i wanted to know about it.

—- I just need some motivation. In begging i was very determined but now i feel lazy or slow. Just thought to ask here if its natural or i should not think like that?
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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 8th August 2019 01:59
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1. Our iman goes up and down as the time passes. Sometimes one feels joy while practicing the deen and sometimes one is feelingless. This is natural.

2. Find a halal activity for recreation. Islam is deen of nature and it doesn't demand us to be robots. Even Sahaba RA used to play sports. In fact, in a hadith it is advised to teach your children swimming, horse riding and arrow shooting. However, our recreational activities must be halal and beneficial like exercise, fun activities with family and kids. Intelligence enhancing activities like Scrabble etc. Through recreation our mind and body recovers from fatigue and exhaustion due to our daily chores.
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 8th August 2019 08:35
Maybe one of the members can recall and share the Hadith in which the Sahaba would mention to the Prophet (saw) that when they were around him (saw), they felt their Iman increase and after a while, when they departed from him (saw), their Iman would decrease.

When they were preoccupied in the Dunya, they felt their Iman decrease. They felt hypocritical.

There are plenty of narrations that talk about increase and decrease of Iman and how sometimes the Sahaba would just get together for an hour to increase their Iman.
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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 8th August 2019 13:55
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Hanzala Usayyidi, who was amongst the scribes of Allah's Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) reported:

I met Abu Bakr. He said: How are you? He (Hanzala) said: Hanzala has turned to be a hypocrite. He (Abu Bakr) said: Hallowed be Allah, what are you saying? Thereupon he said: I say that when we are in the company of Allah's Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) we ponder over Hell-Fire and Paradise as if we are seeing them with our very eyes and when we are away from Allah's Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) we attend to our wives, our children, our business; most of these things (pertaining to After-life) slip out of our minds. Abu Bakr said: By Allah, I also experience the same. So I and Abu Bakr went to Allah's Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and said to him: Allah's Messenger, Hanzala has turned to be a hypocrite. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: What has happened to you? I said: Allah's Messenger, when we are in your company, we are reminded of Hell-Fire and Paradise as if we are seeing them with our own eyes, but whenever we go away from you and attend to our wives, children and business, much of these things go out of our minds. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: By Him in Whose Hand is my life, if your state of mind remains the same as it is in my presence and you are always busy in remembrance (of Allah), the Angels will shake hands with you in your beds and in your paths but, Hanzala, time should be devoted (to the worldly affairs) and time (should be devoted to prayer and meditation). He (the Holy Prophet) said this thrice.

[Saheeh Muslim]
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#5 [Permalink] Posted on 8th August 2019 15:09
Carrying out the Command of Allah Despite not feeling motivated


Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) once mentioned:
It is compulsory upon one to fulfil the commandments of Shariah, regardless of whether one feels motivated or not. It is really unfortunate that one only fulfils the commands of Shariah when one feels motivated. Is one the servant of one’s feelings or the servant of Allah? (Being the servant of Allah demands that one fulfils the command of the Creator regardless of whether one feels motivated or not. This is the sign of one being the true servant of Allah and not the servant of one’s feelings.) (Malfoozaat Hakeemul Ummat 7/239)

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#6 [Permalink] Posted on 8th August 2019 15:25

Never Give Up

 

7 Tips on Remaining Consistent in Performing Good Deeds

By Fazilet Baskan

 

How often have we started a good deed but have failed to permanently embed it into our daily routines? What is it that we lack?

The answer ― Consistency.

We often experience sudden bursts of excitement when we leave a conference or listen to an inspirational talk and feel extremely motivated. So we begin to map in our minds all the good deeds we want to inculcate into our lives and start to perform these acts which last for a day or two but revert back to our old habits before we know it.

Our Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said: “The most beloved of deeds to Allah are those that are most consistent, even if they are small.” [bukhari]

So how can we remain consistent in performing good deeds? Here are 7 tips that will help you succeed:

#1 INTENTION

The Prophet (May Allah bless him and grant him peace) said, “Actions are [judged] according to intentions, and a person receives only what he has intended.” [bukhari]

Make a sincere intention and constantly keep it in check. Ask yourself, “Why am I doing this deed? Is it purely for the sake of Allah Most High or are there secondary intentions?” If a deed is carried out with sincerity, it will be rewarded by Allah, otherwise it is done in vain.

#2 DEVELOP A REGULAR SCHEDULE

The most effective way to establish a habit is to attach it to something already embedded in your daily routine. Perhaps you would like to be regular in dhikr[remembrance of Allah] or recitation of the Qur’an but have struggled to find consistency. One method is to attach it to your five daily prayers as it is already embedded in your daily routine. If you are random, you will find that it will quickly disappear from your routine.

#3 WALK BEFORE YOU RUN

We often want to do too much too soon. When a person signs up for a gym membership, they don’t begin lifting the heaviest weights on day one. We must first learn to walk before we can run. Be realistic. If you don’t attend the mosque five times a day, don’t make it a goal to attend all five prayers on day oneIf you are memorizing the Qur’an, you may struggle to memorize just one verse in the beginning, but after consistent effort you will begin to breeze through the pages.

#4 DISCIPLINE

Self-discipline is essential in progressing through consistency. Merely developing a schedule for yourself won’t take you to your goal. You must also make an internal commitment and conscious decision to follow through with it. Make it a priority to defend your schedule. This may be challenging initially as you may get distracted and tempted to divert from your schedule. However, if you divert from your schedule for just one day, it can lead to three days, one week and before you know it you are back to square one. Habits can only be formed with regular, consistent effort. 

#5 DO IT WITH EXCELLENCE

The Prophet (May Allah bless him and grant him peace) said “Verily, Allah has prescribed excellence in all things.” [Muslim]

We must strive to achieve excellence in everything that we do. Don’t just aim to be ‘good’, strive for excellence! Worship Allah Most High on the basis that He sees you and is watching over you at all times. When you are praying, recognize that you are standing in front of Allah Most High. When you are reciting Qur’an, ponder over the meanings. Present your deeds as if you are presenting a gift. Reflect on your deeds. Did you apply it with excellence?

#6 PATIENCE

“Verily, Allah is with the patient.” [2:153]

There are three types of patience. The first, is to have patience during a calamity and this is the common notion of patience. When you begin to understand that a calamity is coming from Allah Most High, you will be able to bare it with patience. 

The second, is having patience in refraining from sin.We are constantly presented with opportunities to do good deeds and bad deeds. The opportunity to do a bad deed often seems more appealing. Our goal is to refrain from committing these bad deeds when we are faced with the opportunity.

The third, is patience on doing good deeds. We generally exercise more patience in doing deeds that the other two categories. When we wake up on a cold morning to pray, when we fast on a long summer day, we are exercising patience. It is essential to persevere with your good deeds especially when you may feel like giving up. 

#7 MOTIVATION

We tend to lose motivation when we don’t see immediate results or we don’t feel the effects of our efforts. Know that the ultimate reward lies in the Hereafter. It may help to have a family member or a friend to remind, motivate and track your progress. If you happen to stumble and fall one day, never give up! 
May Allah Most High give us the ability to be consistent in our good deeds. Amin.

Fazilet Baskan is a student and teaching assistantat Rayyan Institute.

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#7 [Permalink] Posted on 9th August 2019 23:41
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JazakAllah khair brother inshaAllah will try to find some hobby or new activity when get some free time
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#8 [Permalink] Posted on 9th August 2019 23:42
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JazakAllah khair brother
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#9 [Permalink] Posted on 9th August 2019 23:46
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JazakAllah khair sister. Sister this Hadith is about all things of deen only or it encompasses the acts related to Dunia too?

The Prophet (May Allah bless him and grant him peace) said “Verily, Allah has prescribed excellence in all things.” [Muslim]
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#10 [Permalink] Posted on 10th August 2019 11:39
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Good question! I asked Mufti Ismail Moosa, he said:

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Yes, in everything, be it Dunyawi (worldly) or Ukhrawi (everything).

So from dressing to setting the table...from studying to working, it covers everything.


Also the full hadith is as follows:

On the authority of Abu Ya'la Shaddad bin Aws (may Allah be pleased with him), that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

"Verily Allah has prescribed ihsan (perfection) in all things. Thus if you kill, kill well; and if you slaughter, slaughter well. Let each one of you sharpen his blade and let him spare suffering to the animal he slaughters."

Read the commentary below:
40hadithnawawi.com/index.php/the-hadiths/hadith-17

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#11 [Permalink] Posted on 11th August 2019 01:39
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Thank you so so much dear sister. Alhamdulillah i was searching for same context for my other query. And thats too answered here. JazakAllah khair

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