It is good that you are not patriotic and emotional about it any more,both are subjective feelings and are not worthy of any consideration....
Partition of Indian subcontinent in 1947 was based on a principle,that Muslim majority areas will become part of Pakistan while Hindu majority areas will become part of India.
Kashmir and Hyderabad were special in the sense,that Kashmir was ruled by a Hindu/Sikh ruler,while Hyderabad was ruled by a Muslim ruler. India annexed Hyderabad through a police action,which in reality was military invasion.
When the Hindu ruler of Kashmir intended to join India against the established principle of partition the Pukhtoon tribals along the border invaded Kashmir,and managed to liberate part of it.India sent its troops to the rest of the valley,and promised in the United Nations that India will hold a referendum in Kashmir and give the people a 'free choice' as to which country they want to join,later they backtracked on the promise and announced that 'Kashmir was an integral part of India'.
A lot of water has flown under the bridges since then and new realities have emerged,including the concept of 'an independent state of Kashmir' which is neither with Pakistan nor India,and which comprise of both Indian occupied Kashmir and Azad Kashmir.
It is the 'will of the people of Kashmir' which is important,it is their country and they have the right to decide about their future,and the best way still is to give them the chance to decide through a free vote under the supervision of United Nations.It is no more a dispute between Pakistan and India,Kashmiris have sacrificed more than 70,000 lives for their cause,since 1992 Indian occupation forces have raped more than 11000 Kashmiri women,blinded so many young men and women with their pellet guns,many are languishing in torture cells....the only other parallel could be Palestine :(
Kashmir is for Kashmiri people,neither Pakistan nor India can force a decision upon them.They have now reached a stage where they have to be given freedom,the sooner the better.There will be no 'peace' until then....