My older brother believes that doing good is enough in order to get through life. He recently went out with a non-muslim girl and in the beginning I advised him to get married to a muslim girl. He was very angry and said that he expects me to support him since he supported me when i wanted to get married. I married a practising brother and when the conversation came up, all he said was im happy for you. He said he would be happy for me regardless if i married a Muslim, Hindu or Sikh.
As it happens after 2 months the girl broke up with him and he accused me of being happy that he's alone. He refused to return my affections e.g. if i hugged him, he would shrugg it off. i tried speaking to him for 2 days and he continued to ignore me.
After 1 month, we met and he still said that even in the future, he will get himself involved with a person as long as they love him -despite whatever religion they belong to. My parents are very upset ad hurt that my brother is increasingly falling out of the path of islam. He says he respects my religion and that i need to accept that this is who he is. He says that he discussed the issue with everyone and his friends say that your sister should keep her opinions to herself. He says that even after the break up-he's happy but wants his sister by him. I cant support him in marrying someone who is not muslim as Allah has said that we should marry of the believing men and women.
We left with him asking will i support him if he marries a non- muslim? and if i dont then our relationship is pretty much finished as he feels that im judging him and forcing him to follow 'MY' way. My husband supports me in whatever decision i make but my consciounce is not allowing me to support him and i fear that i may be breaking the ties of kinship, which is a sin in itself.
Should i support him just to uphold the kinship? or lose a brother? He has said that he will not change and that he will wait for my choice.