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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 20th March 2017 22:21

At what age would it not be allowed for a girl to share a bed with her father or son with their mother? 

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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 21st March 2017 00:56
The answer to this question is based on the hadeeth of ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Teach your children to pray when they are seven years old, and smack them if they do not (pray) when they are ten years old, and separate them in their beds.”

Narrated by Abu Dawood, 495; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.

This separation of children includes all children: males with males and with females; and females with females and with males. If separating between them is obligatory when they are at this age, then it is even more essential after that, because desire grows more intense. This hadeeth is a response to those who say that there is no desire among mahrams, and it is what motivated some scholars to say it is allowed for an adult male to sleep in the same bed as his mother or his father. But the correct view is something other than this. The one who ponders how things are nowadays will not doubt that the correct way is to prevent that, and that the hadeeth includes a grown son sleeping in the same bed as his mother or his father, and a grown daughter sleeping in the same bed as her mother or her father.

Ibn ‘Aabdeen al-Hanafi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

In al-Bazaariyyah it says: When the boy reaches the age of ten, he should not sleep in the same bed as his mother or his sister or any woman other than his wife.
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 21st March 2017 14:48
With regards to siblings (male and male, female and female) sharing a bed or son sleeping in the same bed as his father or daughter in the same bed as her mother, my understanding from what I have read is that they are allowed to share a blanket in the same bed if they are clothed.
Correct me if I am wrong.
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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 21st March 2017 16:09
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Is it permissible for siblings to sleep with each other?
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(Fatwa: 1452/1367=D/1429)


We have been ordered by Hadith to separate the beds of boys and girls when they reach ten of their age. Therefore, it is unlawful to make the brothers and sisters of ten years or more sleep on single bed together.
Allah (Subhana Wa Ta’ala) knows Best

Darul Ifta,
Darul Uloom Deoband


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Messenger of Allah (saw) said: “Tell your children to pray when they are seven years old and smack them if they do not do it when they are 10 years old, and separate them in their beds.”

Tell your children is not gender specific. Especially in this day and age where young children are taught about gay and lesbian relationships (even in Pakistan, Astagfirullah)

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Zakariyya al-Ansaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Separating them in their beds may be done in two ways: if each child has his own bed, or if they are in one bed but separated and not touching one another. We should be content with the second meaning, because there is no evidence for interpreting the hadeeth according to the first meaning on its own. Al-Zarkashi said: Interpreting it on that basis is the apparent meaning; indeed it is the correct meaning because of the first hadeeth, “and separate their beds.” And it is also supported by the reason behind it, which is the fear of wrong action. End quote from Asna al-Mataalib (3/113).

And it says in Kashshaaf al-Qinaa’ (5/18): When siblings reach the age of 10 years, whether they are males or females, or females and males, their guardian should separate them in their beds, so he should give each one of them a bed of his own, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “And separate them in their beds”, i.e., when they have been sleeping dressed lightly as it says in al-Mustaw’ab wa’l-Ri’aayah. End quote.’’


Of course, if one can afford it and have the space, then seperate them, otherwise there must be a good barrier in between them.

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Saaiduna Abu Said Khudri Radiallahu Anhu, reported from his father: The Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam said: “A man should not see the private parts of another man, and a woman should not see the private parts of another woman, and a man should not lie with another man under one covering, and a woman should not lie with another woman under one covering” (Sunan Abu Dawud p.201 v.2, Sahih Muslim and Musnad Ahmad)

The explanation of the aforementioned hadith is that a man is not allowed to sleep with another man or a woman is not allowed to sleep with another woman under one sheet or duvet without a barrier, i.e. both being naked. If however, they are covered and are sleeping under one duvet then it will be permissible, althoughit is preferable to refrain from due to the danger of mischief and temptation. (Durr Mandhuud p.119 v.6)

The aforementioned ruling is applicable whether the two women are sisters or not.

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#5 [Permalink] Posted on 21st March 2017 16:17
My reference to Pakistan is based on a few factors and one of them being a book a Pakistani wishes to publish in Pakistan, it is about a gay uncle and how this should be looked at as perfectly normal - Even though it is Haram and Kufr!

The book is already out in other countries.


My Chacha Is Gay” is about a young boy named Ahmed and his gay uncle.
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