Watering Down of Istikhara?

Asslamo Allaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaruh,

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In my lifetime I have noticed a watering down of Istikhara. In my younger days Istikhara was an integral part of “marriage decision” making process so much so that people actually sought whom they considered pious to do the Istikhara for them.

With the rise of failing marriages and people questioning as to why their marriages are failing (despite doing Istikhara and despite seeing wonderful dreams), Istikhara is being reduced to a formality i.e. you do Istikhara but the results can be good or can be bad.

I know that dreams are not the reality of Istikhara (that Is not my question) but is spirituality being watered down for current generation because stark reality (cold hard facts) are so many marriages failing despite Istikhara? Or is it wrong perception on my part?

Jazakallahu Khayran

Slightly offtopic:

Shaykh Yasir Qadhi (HA) writes:

I was reading some notes from a famous Muslim scholar and judge (Dr. Ali al-Tantawi). In it, he wrote that over the course of half a century as an Islamic judge, he had seen over twenty thousand cases of family dispute and divorce. He writes,

"It is my estimation that in almost all of these divorces, a primary cause was the meddling of the in-laws and extended family. Had the couple been allowed to work things out, I believe that 75 % of these divorces would not have taken place."