I had a good American Tableeghi freind of mine, extremely handsome brother and he was older then us. We used to talk about women and he used to say "Its all in the head people need to learn to control their desires properly, some people just ain't got control, man!"
His old girl friend came to him and he told her that he was now a Muslim. This woman was now older and a drug addict (skins and bones) and wasn't attractive but she said the she loved him.
In the end he slept with her and I found him crying in front of my door one morning and said,
"It is SAD that I committed ZINA but after ZINA she looked at me while we were both in the bed and said "Muslims"...Hmm..."
He said that tore him up because she mocked his control and his Eemaan!