[3:14] It has been made attractive for people to love the desired things; that is, women, children, hoarded heaps of gold and silver, branded horses, cattle and tillage. That is an enjoyment of the worldly life; but with Allah lies the beauty of the final resort.
When it comes to women we need to realise that Shaytaan beautifies a woman (beyond what she actually is) for a man and makes her feel attractive (when she actually may not be). A wife at home maybe 90% what we want and 10% what we don’t want. Shaytaan will put 1% of a stranger woman in front of us and make us focus on that particular quality when 99% of this woman is either hidden or incompatible.
When married men have affairs, you subjectively compare the woman whom they are having an affair with the wife and they are often inferior to the wife. In fact, I have sisters tell me that brother I don’t know why he was attracted to that woman, I honestly fail to comprehend that!
So you know that its Shaytaan who got in the middle and made this woman appear larger than life (when she isn’t).
This was relayed to me through a Bayan of Shaykh (Maulana) Umar Palunpuri (RA) that Shaytaan will always make a strange woman “worth” more than what she actually is!