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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 20th January 2020 15:48

Make peace.....its one of the noblest things

by Asma bint Shameem

We decided to meet for lunch. We were all excited. After all, we were getting together after a long time. As we sat at our table, we started talking, catching up on all that had happened in the past few years, when I noticed a bit of tension developing between two of my friends. Then, all of a sudden, right before my very eyes, before I knew it, it blew up into a horrible argument. Angry words flew between the two of them and before I could do anything to stop it, both my friends stormed out of the place, vowing to never talk to each other ever again!
“Subhaan Allaah! ….what just happened here?” I said to myself, trying to digest the horrible incidence that just took place. Two of my dear friends fighting with each other!

Many of us face something similar several times in our lives……our families and loved ones arguing over something so trivial, our friends not talking to each other over the littlest of things, people shunning each other and staying angry, even years after the matter took place, to the extent that sometimes they don’t even remember why they are fighting!

And we all know people who may not be openly fighting and arguing, yet we know that there is definitely some kind of either hostility or jealousy between them, or even some kind of misunderstanding amongst themselves.
So what’s a Muslim to do in such a situation? Stand by and watch?!!
Definitely NOT.

What is required from us in such a situation is that we make peace between them for the sake of Allaah.

“The believers are nothing but brothers, so make peace between your two brothers and beware of Allah that perhaps you may be shown mercy.” (Al-Hujaraat:10)

And, noble, indeed is the act of making peace and reconciling between two arguing parties. In fact, it is superior to voluntary fasting and sunnah and nafl prayer.

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said:

“Shall I not tell you of something that is better than fasting, prayer and charity?” They said: Yes. He said: “Reconciling between two people, for the corruption of that which is between the hearts is the shaver (destroyer). It is the shaver, and I do not say that it shaves hair, rather that it shaves religious commitment.”(al-Tirmidhi- hasan)

Subhaan Allaah! Better than fasting, prayer and charity! That just goes to show you how important it is for us to reconcile between people.

In fact, it is so important that, although lying is haraam in and of itself, yet, Allaah has permitted even lying in order to reconcile between people and to remove discord and conflict. This is because of the great negative consequences conflicts and arguments have, on the religious commitment of individuals as well as communities.

Umm Kalthoom said that she heard the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) say:

“He is not a liar who reconciles between people, conveying good messages and saying good things.” (al-Bukhaari, Muslim)

She also said:

“I did not hear him (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) grant any concession concerning anything that the people say of lies except in three cases: reconciling between people, war, and what a man says to his wife, or a woman says to her husband. (Muslim)

Reconciling between disputing parties is a means of earning great rewards. Allaah says:

“There is no good in much of their private conversation except for someone who enjoins giving of charity, good deeds generally or making good that which is between people. Whoever does that seeking the pleasure of Allah, We will give him a great reward.” (An-Nisaa: 114)

However, while making peace between disputing parties, do remember that Islam has a particular methodology and approach to this issue. It is not a matter of simple “conflict resolution”. We cannot simply negotiate and compromise until we reach something agreeable to both of them because it may very well be unjust or not in accordance to Islaam. As Muslims, we add Allah into the equation.

Instead of evaluating the two positions in relation to each other, we have to examine each of them in relation to what pleases Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’ala. For, it is quite possible for two Muslims to be in dispute with each other and yet, neither of their positions be acceptable according to Sharee’ah – even if the other side were to accept it. So when two Muslims or two groups of Muslims disagree or fight, it is upon us to call all of them to what Allaah says in that matter. Allah said:

“If two groups of believers get into a fight then make good that which is between them. Then, if one side transgresses against the other, fight the transgressors until they return to the order of Allah. If they so return, then make good that which is between them with justice and be equitable. Surely, Allah loves those who are equitable.” (Al-Hujaraat:9)

So, if you know anybody out there, arguing, not talking to one another, shunning each other, or simply having distrust and ill feeling towards some other fellow Muslims, go ahead and make peace between them. Do it for the sake of Allaah, remembering the reward and asking Him to accept it from you. Not only will it bring you immense reward and forgiveness from Him, but it will be one of the noblest things that you would do.

Ali ibn Abi Talib said: “One of the things which brings forgiveness is making your fellow Muslim happy.”
Anas said: “Whoever made peace between two, Allah gives him for every word the [reward of] freeing a slave.”

Abu Umama said: “Walk a mile to visit a sick person and walk two miles to visit your brother for the sake of Allah and walk three miles to make peace between two.”

Remind yourself and them that a Muslim should avoid division and difference completely. Avoidance, hatred, rejection and envy all destroy the Muslim community and render it vulnerable to all forms of fitna. If, however, someone does get into such situations of dispute, then they have a maximum of three days after which they should solve the dispute and end the bad feeling between them.

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said:

“Do not boycott one another, do not turn away from one another, do not hate one another and do not envy one another. Be slaves of Allah, brothers. And it is not allowed for a Muslim to avoid another for more than three days.” (al-Bukhaari, Muslim)

And:

“Whoever forsakes his brother for a year, it is as if he has shed his blood.” (Abu Dawood- saheeh by al-Albaani)

May Allaah remove all forms of enmity and ill feelings amongst us and enable us to love each other for His sake Alone. Ameen..



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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 20th January 2020 16:51
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Translation of the Fatwā:Dr. Farhat Hashmi is a P.H.D graduate of Glaskow University and is a free-minded woman who commenced a year course by apparently trying to simplify the Deen and the Tafseer of the Qurān which is known as “A One Year Diploma Course in Islamic Studies” whereas in reality through her free-minded thinking, she has become a victim of misunderstanding. In fact a victim of making apparent errors and instructing her associates of the same.Many of her perspectives are misguiding such as, refuting the importance of Ijmā (consensus) of the Ummah, generally declaring the following of a Mazhab as Shirk, (which means that for the past 14 centuries, majority of the Muslim population who adhered to a Mazhab were all Mushriks). Similarly, one who has missed numerous amounts of Salāhs in his life does not need to perform those Salāhs, merely doing Taubāh is enough.Many of her views are against the majority. For e.g. considering 3 divorces as 1 divorce while some of them are considered bid’ā , encouraging the woman folks in attending the Salāh with Jamā’t, giving the importance of offering Salātut-Tasbeeh with Jam’āt. Such views hold the potential of creating fitnā such as having false assumptions against the Ulamā (scholars) and the Fuqahā (jurists), freeing the importance of Deenī Madāris (Islāmic schools) from the minds of people and considering a short and simple course to be enough for acquiring knowledge. Similarly, the jurists who have put effort in deriving rulings through their deep knowledge of Quran and Hadith are declared as nullified and the rulings are considered to be against the Quran and Hadith.Propagation and development of such persistent views and beliefs are a distinctive attributes of “Al-Huda International”. Based on these beliefs and views, it is causing disputes and chaos and has created doubts regarding the rulings of Shari’āh in the minds of the Muslim Ummāh. The inclination towards exonerated and free minded thinking is rapidly increasing. Based on these facts, abstention from gaining admission in these institutions, teaching, and assisting are all necessary acts. And Allah knows the truth.Muhammad Abdullah HashmiDarul Ifta Jami’āh Banoria Karachi28/Rajab 1425 HijriNote: From the above information that has been provide. It is not advisable for your fiancé to study at the AL-HUDA institute run by Dr. Farhat Hashmi.
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 20th January 2020 17:09
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Assalamu alaikum

I'm already aware of such fatawa against her but I don't think there was a need to share it here. Nevertheless if you think there is anything objectionable in my post apart from her name then please point it out.
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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 20th January 2020 18:30
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Haamidan wa Musalliyan

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakaatuh

The islamic guideline is quite clear and simple. If there is a doubt regarding any personality then keep a distance from him.


And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.



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#5 [Permalink] Posted on 20th January 2020 18:32
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The things about her are facts.

Knowing something is wrong isn't always enough. Stop actively promoting such people directly or indirectly.
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#6 [Permalink] Posted on 20th January 2020 18:38
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Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The word of wisdom is the lost property of the believer. Wherever he finds it, he is most deserving of it.”

Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2687

Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Suyuti

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ الْكَلِمَةُ الْحِكْمَةُ ضَالَّةُ الْمُؤْمِنِ فَحَيْثُ وَجَدَهَا فَهُوَ أَحَقُّ بِهَا


I found something beneficial and I shared it on the forum. I'm not promoting any personality, I just shared the content i.e. الکلمة الحكمة.
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#7 [Permalink] Posted on 20th January 2020 18:42
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What about when we quote Hadith from Shaykh Albani (rh) or Shaykh ibn Taymiyyah (rh) ?

This is a legitimate question
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#8 [Permalink] Posted on 20th January 2020 18:55

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Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah (RA) is one of the best known compilations of Hadeeth, this is the chapter entitled, "Refutation of Abu Haneefa (RA)"

hadith.maktaba.co.in/single-book/96/%D9%85%D8%B5%D9%86%D9...

Send this chapter to any Deobandi Darul-uloom and ask them to translate what he writes about "Imam Abu Haneefa (RA)" verbatim.

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#9 [Permalink] Posted on 20th January 2020 19:53
Ok, I fully admit I have no knowledge of these people nor what they are saying.
I am still very ignorant with most of the teaching of the Hadith.

Saying that, I think this is a wonderful topic about peace.
Isn't the message that peace is very important an undisputed fact, despite who writes about it?
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#10 [Permalink] Posted on 21st January 2020 01:09
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These are quotes I did not fully believe.
If you skip them, as I did, the message remains that peace is a noble pursuit. Isn't this undisputed?

I realize, that in general, a person's message which contains disputable statements, should not be believed.

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#11 [Permalink] Posted on 21st January 2020 09:10

The Virtue of Reconciling People


Reconciling people is among the great noble morals. The sharia urged it in more than one occasion as Allah Almighty says (what means): 

So fear Allah and amend that which is between you.
 [Quran 8: 1] The Messenger of Allah  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said:

Sadaqa (i.e. charity) is due on every joint of a person every day the sun rises. Administering of justice between two men is also a sadaqa. Assisting a man to ride upon his riding animal, or helping him load his luggage upon it is a sadaqa; a good word is a sadaqa; every step that you take towards prayer is a sadaqa, and removing harmful objects from the pathway is a sadaqa. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim; this is the wording of Al-Bukhari.]

Due to the importance of this virtue, Islam assigned one of the disbursement channels of zakah for those who seek to reconcile people. The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said: "The best charity is to reconcile between people." [At-Tabarani in Al-Mu‘jam Al-Kabeer]

Poets did not forget the virtue of reconciling people, so they immortalized it in their poems. One Arab poem said a line of verse that means: All merits are referred to two matters; glorifying the Orders of Allah Almighty and seeking to reconcile people.

Reconciling people is a branch of faith and an Islamic moral code through which grudges are eliminated, hearts are purified, and flames of fitnah are extinguished. Allah Almighty said – about this quality – (what means): 

No good is there in much of their private conversation, except for those who enjoin charity or that which is right or conciliation between people. And whoever does that seeking means to the approval of Allah – then We are going to give him a great reward.
 [Quran 4: 114]

Islam urges the believer to regard 'reconciling people' as one of his most important aims in his worldly life, as it is through reconciliation that the Ummah becomes a coherent unit where one part thereof seeks to amend the other part. Thus, it becomes like a single body; if one organ of it complains, the rest of the body suffers sleeplessness and fever. Neglecting this matter leads to the disintegration of the Ummah and the severance of its ties.

That is why Islam considered reconciling people better than many acts of worship. The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said: "Should I not tell you what is better in degree than prayer, fasting, and charity." They (the companions) said: "Yes." He said: "Reconciling people, for grudges and disputes are the razor (that shaves faith)." [Ahmad, Abu Dawood, and At-Tirmithi: good-authentic]

Reconciliation should be realized by bridging the gaps that occurred because of disputes and conflicts over worldly affairs and by removing their bad effects.
Some scholars maintain that the prayer, the fasting, and the charities that are mentioned in the hadith refer to the voluntary, not the obligatory. Al-Qari  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  him said:

Allah Almighty knows best about the intended meaning. However, it could mean that bringing reconciliation to conflicts and disputes that might lead to shedding blood, plundering money, and violating sanctities is better than fulfilling obligatory acts of worship whose benefits do not extend to others, taking the possibility of making up for them, in case they are missed, into consideration. This is so because such acts of worship are among the Rights of Allah Almighty that are less significant in His sight than the rights of the slaves.

As regards his saying, "Grudges and disputes are the razor," the author of An-Nihayah said: " 'The razor' refers to such a bad quality that removes faith, just like a razor removes hair. It was also said that it refers to severing ties of kinship and injustice." At-Teebi  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  him said:

The hadith urges reconciling people and avoiding corrupting relations between them, because reconciliation is a reason for holding firm to the rope of Allah Almighty and avoiding disunity between the Muslims, whereas disputes are a crack in the religion. Whoever seeks to amend the relations between the Muslims and removes the corruption thereof will attain a degree that is greater than that of the fasting person who observes night prayers and is preoccupied with his own benefit only.

From the sum of these hadiths, we reach an important result, which is that our great religion aspires for reconciliation and seeks for it. Allah Almighty informed us that settlement of disagreements is best. Allah Almighty says (what means): 

…there is no sin upon them if they make terms of settlement between them – and settlement is best.
 [Quran 4: 128]

Reconciling people is a great act of worship that Allah Almighty loves. The one who seeks to reconcile people is the one who offers his effort, money, authority, and power to reconcile the disputing parties. He is a person whose soul loves goodness and yearns for it. He does not care about the people's opinions or criticism as long as he seeks the pleasure of Allah Almighty. He exposes himself to embarrassing situations and shares the concerns of his Muslim brothers in order to reconcile two persons.

Many are those homes which were about to collapse because of a simple dispute between the spouses. Then, when a person interfered seeking reconciliation between them by means of a good word, a sincere advice, or sometimes a sum of money, he restored peacefulness between them and saved the family from loss and destitution?

How many ruptures of relations were about to occur between two brothers, friends or relatives because of a mistake or a minor error, but then a person succeeded in reconciling them.

How many lives and properties were saved and satanic temptations were suppressed after they were about to start thanks to the favor of Allah Almighty and then to those good people who reconcile others!

Congratulations, O Muslims, to those who were guided by Allah Almighty to reconcile two opponents, spouses, neighbors, friends, partners, or groups.
What further indicates the great virtue of reconciling people is that Islam allows lying to reconcile quarreling people. The intended meaning of lying here is to exaggerate in describing and confirming the good aspects of the other party so as to reconcile hearts and to assert that such a dispute was not intentional. The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said: "The one who reconciles people is not considered a liar if he exaggerates what is good or says what is good." [Ahmad] A scholar said: "Allah Almighty likes lying for the sake of reconciliation and dislikes truthfulness for the sake of corruption." Thus, pay attention to this.

We have to realize that we are human beings and that disputes breaking up among us is something normal. Rare are those people who are safe from disagreement. It might occur between you and your brother, relative, spouse, or friend… This happens often. So, we have to rid ourselves of this by reconciliation, shaking hands, forgiveness, condescendence, love, and brotherhood so that everything becomes alright again.

Let us reflect upon this hadith of the master of those who reconcile people  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ):

The gates of Paradise are opened on two days: Monday and Thursday. Every slave who does not associate anything with Allah Almighty is granted pardon, except the person in whose (heart) there is rancor against his brother. It would be said: delay both of them until they reconcile; delay both of them until they reconcile; delay both of them until they reconcile. [Muslim]

Al-Awza‘i  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  him said: "There is no step that is dearer to Allah Almighty than a step towards reconciling people. Whoever reconciles two people, Allah Almighty will grant him safety from Hellfire."

O my loved ones for the sake of Allah, the Exalted! Someone may say: ‘I want to go to so-and-so to reconcile, but I fear that he rejects me, refuses to receive me, or depreciates my visit!’

I tell you: remember that your Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) is telling you: ‘Go to him even if he dismisses you or talks badly about you. Go to him once, twice, and thrice and hasten to give him a present, smile at him, and treat him nicely.’ The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said: "Allah Almighty augments the honor of he who forgives." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim] If you pardon, Allah Almighty will increase your honor; if you reconcile people, Allah Almighty will increase your honor. If you were expelled or the door was not opened for you and you returned, then know that this is one of the wishes of the predecessors of the Ummah because it is proof of the purity of the heart since Allah, the Exalted, says (what means):

And if it is said to you, "Go back," then go back; it is purer for you.
 [Quran 24: 28] So, take care of this, O believer, and do not leave for Satan a way to yourself.

Try reconciliation today. Call the one who is disputing with you and treat him nicely. Perhaps this call might be a reason, after the mercy of Allah Almighty, for forgiving your sins: 

Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.
 [Quran 24: 22]
Go to him. There are people who went to sit with their opponents for only fifteen or thirty minutes, but they ended up sitting for long hours because of the great happiness, comfort, familiarity, and love they felt.

Try to be the one who takes the initiative of reconciliation and do not let Satan's whisper overcome you. The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said: "It is unlawful for a Muslim to forsake his fellow Muslim for more than three consecutive days. When they meet, each of them turns his face away from the other. The better one is the one who starts the greeting." [Ahmad]

The one who seeks reconciliation should keep the etiquettes of settlement in mind so that Allah Almighty supports him and so that he receives the fruits of his endeavor. The greatest of these etiquettes include:

1- He should make his intention sincere for the sake of Allah Almighty. He should not intend money, prestige, ostentation, or fame with the reconciliation, but he should seek the countenance of Allah Almighty, Who says (what means): 

And whoever does that seeking means to the approval of Allah – then We are going to give him a great reward.
 [Quran 4: 114]

2- He should adhere to justice and completely avoid injustice. 

Then make settlement between them in justice and act justly. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly.
 [Quran 49: 9]

3- Let your conciliation be based upon sharia knowledge. It is preferable that you consult scholars in this regard, study the issue from all its sides, and listen to each of the parties.

4- Do not be rash in your judgment and take your time because hastiness may lead to corrupting more than what has been amended.

5- You should choose the appropriate time for reconciling between the conflicting parties. That is to say that you only start the reconciliation when the issue becomes cool, the severity of the dispute is alleviated, and the fire of anger is extinguished; then you start to reconcile them.

6- What is more important also is using nice words, you should say: "O father of so-and-so, you are known for such-and-such." You should mention his merits and good deeds and you may exaggerate even to the point of lying; then warn him against grudges and disputes.

O Allah, purify our hearts from grudge, envy, and cheating. O Allah, amend our relations with our relatives. O Allah, amend our relations with our loved ones. O Allah, make life an increase for us in every good and make death a relief for us from every evil with Your mercy, O Most Merciful of the Merciful.



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