Wasalam, it's ok. Jazakumullah for your reply.
Looking for arbitration when the relationship needs help is not the same as WhatsApping your Shaykh and giving him running commentary. In my opinion most (normal) men will be and are furious.
Talk to most men and they begin to feel the problems with their wife and the Shaykh and it is the reality so no, it is not ok most of the times.
When your wife relies on a 3rd party instead of husband to work things out it almost always causes problems.
It is against the Ghayrah of men no matter how much of a sinner and wrong doer a man is to have his weaknesses announced to another man
This cannot be undone and I am sure it will be greatly appreciated.