Things pan out this way because believers DO NOT know how to make Sul'h (reconciliation) between believers, rather they egg each other on and to try to defame and humiliate each other.
To reconcile is a commandment of Allah (SWT).
When fire rages it simply damages, it doesn’t see if the house of friend or foe is being turned to ash and tinder.
The issue is dead simple:
Shaykh (Mufti) A. S. Desai (HA) is an Alim of Ahlus-Sunnah Wal-Jamaat and thus deserves respect
Shaykh (Maulana) Ebrahim Bham (HA) is an Alim of Ahlus-Sunnah Wal-Jamaat and thus deserves respect
Shaykh (Maulana) Tariq Jameel (HA) is an Alim of Ahlus-Sunnah Wal-Jamaat and thus deserves respect
None of them are FAASIQ or FAAJIR but may have some opinions which one may disagree with. Here is the explicit example of Shaykh (Maulana) Ashraf Ali Thanwi (RA) about an Alim whom we explicitly and actually (pretty much unanimously) disagree with!
Shaykh (Maulana) Ashraf Ali Thanwi (RA) [1863-1943] respecting Ulama
Shaykh Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahimahullah) and Shaykh Ahmad Raza Khan Barelwi (rahimahullah) by Shaykh Muhammad Tayyib al-Qasimi (RA)
I have witnessed the fact that Shaykh Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahimahullah) differed on numerous subjects from Shaykh Amad Raza Khan Barelwi (rahimahullah). Their differences covered the topics of Qiyaam, Urs, Meelad etc. But in spite of this, whenever his name happened to be mentioned in a Majlis (gathering), he used to say, "Moulana Ahmad Raza Khan Sahib."
On one occasion an individual sitting in the Majlis mentioned his name without adding the title Moulana to his name saying, "Ahmad Raza Khan." Shaykh Thanwi (rahimahullah) became angry and scolded him saying, "He is an Alim after all in spite of the fact that there are differences of opinion between us, you are disrespecting the position he has been granted. How can this be correct? Differences of opinion is another matter altogether. It is a seperate issue that he considers me to be upon error pertaining to certain issues. What is the meaning of such condescension, such disrespect for him?"
Shaykh Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahimahullah) was among the Ahl-ul-ilm, the people of knowledge. If and when someone's name occurred he used to consider respect for that person to be necessary. Even if it was a person who bore absolute enmity towards him, he never allowed respect to leave his side.
This cannot be undone and I am sure it will be greatly appreciated.