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#16 [Permalink] Posted on 12th December 2011 00:59
WIN WIN SITUATION.

There doesn't always have to be a loser. We see in many cases that Rasul Allah gave a way out for the people he differed with.

When he sent the letter to Caesar, he said in it, "Become Muslim and you shall be safe, Allah shall give you your reward double!"

He did not say surrender or die! Nothing of the sort. Become Muslim and you shall win, rather your victory shall be double.

I shall end with this shining example of how to act with other Muslims from our role model, Abu Bakr:

Abu Bakr once disputed with another companion about a tree. During the dispute Abu Bakr said something that he rather would not have said. He did not curse, he did not attack someone's honor, he did not poke a fault in anyone, all he said was something that may have hurt the other companion's feelings.

Immediately, Abu Bakr - understanding the mistake - ordered him, "Say it back to me!" The companion said, "I shall not say it back." "Say it back to me," said Abu Bakr, "Or I shall complain to the Messenger of Allah." The companion refused to say it back and went on his way.

Abu Bakr went to Rasul Allah and related what had happened and what he said. Rasul Allah called that companion and asked him, "Did Abu Bakr say so and so to you?" He said, "Yes." He said, "What did you reply." He said, "I did not reply it back to him." Rasul Allah said, "Good, do not reply it back to him (do not hurt Abu Bakr). Rather say, 'May Allah forgive you O Abu Bakr!'"

The Companion turned to Abu Bakr and said, "May Allah forgive you O Abu Bakr! May Allah forgive you O Abu Bakr!" Abu Bakr turned and cried as he walked away.

Let us leave today with a resolve to revive this air Rasul Allah and his companions breathed, an air of mercy and love and brotherhood.
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#17 [Permalink] Posted on 12th December 2011 01:01
SOME YOU WIN SOME YOU LOSE

A Bedouin came to Rasul Allah and told him, "Give me from what Allah gave you, not from the wealth of your mother nor from the wealth of your father." The Sahaabah were furious at the man and step forward to discipline him for what he said. Rasul Allah commanded everyone to leave him.

Then by the hand, Rasul Allah took him home, opened his door and said, "Take what you wish and leave what you wish." The man did so and after he completed, Rasul Allah asked him, "Have I honored you?" "Yes, by Allah," said the Bedouin. "Ash hadu an laa ilaaha illa Allah, wa ashhadu anna Muhammadar Rasul Allah." (Meaning he embraced Islam)

When the Sahabah heard of how the man changed, Rasul Allah taught them. "Verily the example of myself, you and this Bedouin is that of a man who had his camel run away. The townspeople tried capturing the camel for him by running and shouting after the camel, only driving it further away. The man would shout, 'Leave me and my camel, I know my camel better.' Then he took some grass in his hand, ruffled it in front of the camel, until it came willingly.

'By Allah, had I left you to this Bedouin, you would have hit him, hurt him, he would have left without Islam and eventually have entered hellfire."

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#18 [Permalink] Posted on 17th December 2011 17:29
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#19 [Permalink] Posted on 17th December 2011 17:44
It is written in Malfoozāt Hakeem-ul Ummat, vol. 1, p. 180 that once, in the course of a discussion, Hadhrat Moulānā Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Rahmatullahi Alaihe) said:

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The Deobandi, Wahhābi, and Barelwi differences have caused great harm to the ummah. Nevertheless, I do not respond to anyone (to their criticism and allegations). In fact I detest such futile discussions.

I am grateful that Allah granted me the opportunity of sitting in the company of luminaries with such a mindset. Hadhrat Hajee Sahib had once mentioned: 'Do not get entangled in debating with others. If anybody wishes to provoke you, then treat him as a barber had once treated a client. A person had once visited the barber and asked him to pluck out all his white hairs. The barber in response shaved off all the client's hair and presented them before him and remarked: "I have a lot of other work to attend to. I do not have the time to pluck out each white strand. Therefore, I have placed all your hair before you so that you may pluck the white strands." Saying these words the barber got up and walked away.'

What Hadhrat meant was that if any person tries to entangle you in a discussion then place all the information before him. Thereafter, leave him to himself and get involved in your work. Certainly, Hadhrat was wise. What a unique advice he had given! Whenever I face such a situation, I realise the true worth of this piece of advice. Despite it being just a few words, yet it is so comprehensive. The underlying factor is that there is always some nafsāniyyat (personal motives) in these discussions.
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#20 [Permalink] Posted on 23rd December 2011 21:15

http://alhaadi.org.za/articles/lessons-from-the-lives-of-the-pious/1445-abstention-from-disputes.html

Hadhrat Mufti Taqi Uthmani (Daamat Barakaatuhum) writes regarding their father Hadhrat Mufti Muhammad Shafee` Sahib (Rahmatullahi Alayh):

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“Our honourable father had an inherent aversion for quarrels and disputes. As long as there was no genuine Shar`ee need he never engaged himself in any type of dispute in order to secure a personal right. I cannot recall the innumerable occasions when he forfeited his personal valuable rights merely for the sake of avoiding a dispute. He would very often quote the Hadeeth of Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) in relation to this:

 

أنا زعيم ببيت في وسط الجنة لمن ترك المراء و هو محق 

I guarantee a home in the middle of Jannah for that person who leaves out disputing despite being correct.

 

In the light of his practice on the above mentioned hadeeth a very amazing incident had transpired (in connection to a land that was allotted for Darul Uloom Karachi – to be mentioned in the next issue). Besides this, it is unknown as to how many people deceived him in his personal dealings. Many had tried to bring up cases against him. There were those who attempted to defame him through newspapers and the media. However, in the face of all these incidents he never resorted to the tactics that are nowadays adopted when replying to such propaganda. Instead, in most cases he relinquished his right and came out of the predicament. He always avoided any type of confrontation and dispute irrespective of whether it related to academic issues or a discussion with people of opposing ideologies. He would quote the statement of one of the pious (perhaps it was Imaam Zuhri Rahmatullahi Alayh):

 

المراء يذهب بنور العلم

 

Disputes eliminate the noor (light) of knowledge.

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#21 [Permalink] Posted on 26th December 2011 10:45
 
It is written in Unity of The Ummah By Mufti Muhammad Shafi Usmani
 
 
When Sheikhul Hind Moulana Mahmudul Hasan rahimahullah was released from the prison of Malta after spending four years of incarceration, he returned to Darul Ulum Deoband and mentioned something very important to a gathering of Ulama.
 
Those people who knew Sheikhul Hind rahimahullah also know that his imprisonment was not like the imprisonment of normal political leaders. During the war of independence, all his movements were only for the pleasure of Allah - in order that the Ummah be reformed and successful. While he was a traveller in a hopeless condition, at the time of his arrest, the sentence that was on his lips gives some indication of his resoluteness and his aim. He said,
 
"All praises are due to Allah that I have been arrested due to a problem and not due to sin."
 
In the solitude of the jail, when some of his companions saw him in grief, they attempted to console him. He said, "What grief can there be for this problem which will one day terminate. I am grieving whether this hardship and toil will be accepted by Allah if or not."
 
One night, after his release, he addressed the Ulama after Isha in Darul Ulum and said, "I have learnt two lessons in Malta." On hearing this, everyone shot to attention and wondered what this teacher of all teachers who taught Ulama for eighty years, learnt in the final phase of his life. He said, "I pondered in the solitude of the prison why the Muslims in the whole world are being destroyed with regard to both, their religious and worldly lives, I concluded that there are two causes for this. One is their discarding the Qur'an and secondly, their mutual differences and disputes. Accordingly, I have come with a firm intention from there to spend the rest of my life in spreading the Qur'an by making its words and meanings common. Madrasahs should be established to teach the children Qur'an in every village. The adults should be educated with the meanings of the Qur'an in the form of Qur'anic lessons. They should be encouraged to practise on the Qur'anic teachings. Under no circumstances must the mutual disputes and quarrels of the Muslims be tolerated."
 
After taking the pulse of the Ummah and diagnosing their diseases, he continuously spent the remaining days of his life in administering the cure in spite of his ill health, weakness and preoccupations. He himself started lessons of the Qur'an in which all the Ulama of the city and great luminaries like Moulana Husain Ahmad Madam rahimahullah and Moulana Shabbir Ahmad Uthmam rahimahullah participated. The general public and I myself had the honour of participating. But after this incident, only a few days of Hadrat's rahimahullah life remained.
 
Today also, the problems the Muslims are facing have the same two causes if one has to examine them with insight:
1. discarding the Qur'an and
2. mutual in-fighting.
 

If one ponders, this in-fighting is also caused by abandoning the Qur'an. If we had practised even a little on the Qur'an, our disputes would not have reached this stage.

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#22 [Permalink] Posted on 16th August 2012 18:58
'Ubaadah bin 'Saamit R.A. said, 'Once Rasulullah S.W. S.W. came out to inform us the true date of Laylatul Qadr. (Unfortunately at that time) an argument took place between two muslim men, whereupon he said, "I came out in order to inform you as to when Laylatul Qadr was, but because two people argued (the fixing of the correct date) was taken away. Perhaps that is better for you. So seek it among the ninth, seventh and fifth nights".

Reported in Mishkaat.

COMMENTARY
Three important points are referred to in this Hadith. Firstly, there is mention of an argument which resulted in the knowledge of Laylatul Qadr being withheld from us.
  • Arguments are always the cause of loss of blessings once Rasulullah S.W. S.W. inquired of the companions, "Shall I inform you of some action that is better than 'salaah, fasting and charity?" The companions replied, "Certainly". Rasulullah S.W. S.A. then said, "Maintaining peaceful and good relations amongst yourselves is most virtuous for verily arguments among yourselves eliminates faith ". This means that just as the razor removes hair form the head so does arguments amongst yourself remove faith. This is indeed an illness among us. Even those among us who appear exceptionally religious and busy with thikr are victims of these arguments and strife. Firstly we should carefully study Rasulullah S.W. S.W. saying, then check our conduct in which pride prevents us to submit towards natural conciliation. In the first chapter of book (where the etiquette of fasting is discussed) we read that Rasulullah S.W. S.W. said, "To insult a muslim is the most despicable and obnoxious type of achievement. We often go to such extent that when we cross words with Muslims in arguments, we do not even care for a Muslim's or refrain from insults. In such cases no notice seems to be taken of the injunctions of Allah and His messenger. The Holy Qur'aan says,

    "Argue not among yourselves, otherwise your courage will go and your strength depar, and be patient and persevering, for Allah is with those who patiently persevere"
    (Surah Anfaal: 46)

    It is now the duty of those who always seek to injure and destroy the honour and dignity of others to sit back and think how much they have through these despicable deeds, themselves become despicable in Allah's sight and in the sight of those around them. The person who serves relationships with his brothers for more than three days and dies in this state will go straight to Jahannam.

  • Rasulullah S.W. S.W. said that on every Monday and Thursday the actions of servants are brought befor Allah. Then through His Mercy (as a result of certain pious deeds) forgiveness is granted except to the idolators. However, regarding any two people between whom an argument had taken place. And friendship is cut off it shall be said "Leave their affair aside until such time that they become reconciled".

  • Another Hadith states that when actions are presented before Allah, every Monday and Thursday, repentance is accepted from those who repent, and forgiveness is granted to those who seek pardon.As for those who had arguments, they are let as they are.

  • Another Hadith further teaches us that on Shabe Bara'at (the night of the 15th Sha'baan) the mercy of Allah is directed at all Allah's creation and forgiveness is freely granted except for two types of persons. One, a kaafir (disbeliever), and the one who harbours bad thoughts against others in another Hadith it is stated: There are three kinds of people whose 'salaah does not ascend one hand span above their heads for acceptance. Mentioned among these are the ones who argue among themselves.

  • In the above paragraphs I have digressed form the point under discussion. It was not my intention to mention all these Ahaadith on arguments. I merely did it to bring to our notice this great evil which we underestimate, so much so that evens those whom we consider to be noble and righteous are guilty of it. To Allah is my plea, and He is the One we seek assistance from. On the other hand, be informed that this fighting, use of harsh words and cutting oneself off from another, will only be regarded as a crime and evil in Islaam, when done out of enmity and hatred over worldly matters. It is permissible to break off relations with somebody because of evil deeds or because of some religious matter (wherein he is in the wrong and blameable). Ibn Umar R.A. once quoted a saying of Rasulullah S.W. to which his son said something, which outwardly appears as if he objected to it. The result was that Ibn Umar R.A. never again spoke to that son for as long as he lived. There are numerous similar instances reported of the sahaabah.



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#23 [Permalink] Posted on 16th April 2014 16:45
MashaAllah great thread.
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#24 [Permalink] Posted on 17th April 2014 16:00
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