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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 6th April 2019 20:19

Salaam. 

I know OF someone who is planning on running away from home to get married. 

The person is an around 40 year old woman. Her parents are the type that have no intention of getting her or her siblings married. I don't know the particular reason in this case, but they are certainly enjoying the income the woman and her siblings are bringing in. 

The woman wants to get married and start her own family and have her own kids. If she doesn't achieve that soon then she will lose that window of time and it may be too late for her. If she never marries then she will be left alone when her parents pass away and if her siblings get married then she will live a lonely life and die alone. 

I feel this is intense zulm from her parents side. They are just thinking about themselves to the detriment of her daughter's life, security, and happiness. They are taking away her rights. Due to this is it justified for her to leave home and get married. 

She has managed to find someone to marry. But she needs assistance in getting away from home in order to get married. She has found another woman that will help her in the interim period of leaving home and getting married. 

There is a possibility that her parents might get heavy handed when she leaves home. She might need help in this regard. Would it be right for me to help her in this regard if things kick off. 

To summarise:

1. Under these circumstances can she run away from home?

2. Is it right for the other woman to help her in leaving home?

3. Is it right for me to get involved if circumstances require?

EDIT: In this particular case the parents are giving her the choice to either go to Pakistan and marry a cousin or remain unmarried. 

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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 7th April 2019 09:32
Does a woman need father's permission in hanafi fiqh?

Could ask in the following groups:

Markaz al-Iftā wa’l-Qaḍā - Gents
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📧 - markazulifta@theolivefoundation.org.uk

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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 7th April 2019 17:48
Any ways this sort of thing quite common now a days. Marriage proposals come women keep turning them down. They want to focus on their career.

All of a sudden they get to a certain age proposals stop coming. Then they see their body clock ticking away...They realise they wasted their youth away pursuing a career and panic. "Nobody wants me now."
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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 7th April 2019 20:33
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#5 [Permalink] Posted on 8th April 2019 15:26
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Wassalam

Forgive my insolence, but would it not be better to consult a scholar in this matter?
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#6 [Permalink] Posted on 8th April 2019 16:48
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True. I ask on the forum in case someone already knows the scholarly answer.
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#7 [Permalink] Posted on 9th April 2019 05:20
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In his weekly Q and A, Mufti Tariq Masood (DB) answers similar questions very frequently because of his focus on the sunnah of nikah, but the answers vary (and sometimes drastically) depending on the circumstances in each case.
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#8 [Permalink] Posted on 14th April 2019 09:32
its not to runaway from home to get married,
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