Asalamu'alaykum wa Rahmatullah
Sometime ago there was a week-long Islamic Retreat and amongst a few other shuyukh Shaykh Salek bin Siddina, Daamat Barkatuhu, was there; his topic was Birr Al Walidayn- Kindness to Parents. It was a ongoign 3 or 4 day segemnt at an alloted time, masha'Allah what he did was recited a poem; it was a text i believe written in Fus'haa poetry. Alhumdulillah, there was a translator, the english was Beautiful but although many of us coulg not understand the Arabic it sounded amazing, especially with Shaykh Salek reciting it.
Anyways, so Shaykh Salek would recite a few lines and add a sidenote if he wished and his translator would translate, and there came a part where Shaykh Salek was talking/reciting about how Our parents have such great status in front of Allah, in Islaam, yet we dont uphold thier status the way it should be...
The Shaykh then said something which has forever been branded in my mind...
Our parents are right after Rasulullah Sal'Allahualaihiwasalam, it is Allah, Rasulullah Sal'Allahualaihiwasalam, and then your parents. This is their status, this is where they stand, right underneath the Rasul of Allah Sal'Allahualayhiwasalam, Its a great status indeed. Their happiness has adirect connection with the Happiness of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. When Allah is happy with you, you will notice your parents will be happy with you, when your parents are upset with you, Allah is upset with you. Keep your parents happy and insha'Allah Allah will be happy with you as well.
[Ofcourse this is within the limits of shariah]
At first it hit hard..but then when i thought about it..it seemed to hit harder...and then when you go and work on yourself; on this nafs which yearns to rebel, and you control it, and you go out of your way to make your parents happy, you see theres so much more barakah and peace in your life.. you feel it and you think back to what Shaykh Salek said and you think... its true Only Allah could bring this tranquility to us. Amazing Subhan'Allah.
The sad thing is that we never treat them with such respect, love, or care, we undermind them...Their haqq upon us is great, but we fail to be good to them, they have done so much for us yet we fail to respect them and love them and care for them as they do for us.
Indeed respecting our parents is a ticket to jannah, insha'Allah...
Shaykh Salek bin Siddin: www.zaytuna.org/teacherMore.asp?id=11
May Allah grant him Jannah inshaa'Allah... may Allah help us to strive towards a beautiful aakhirah..