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#31 [Permalink] Posted on 30th March 2017 10:38

GREETING STRANGERS OF THE OPPOSITE GENDER

Question

I heard it is sunnah not to greet strangers of the opposite sex. And if greeted not to respond.

Kindly advise on its authenticity as I have come across a Hadith in which Nabi (salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam) greeted women.

Answer

The issue of interacting with women is closely linked to fitnah (mischief). Therefore one would observe the Hadith commentators always adding the following cautionary note to Hadiths like the one you have cited.

‘This applies as long as there is no fear of fitnah.’

Notes like this are found in abundance in the Hadith commentaries.

Hafiz ibn Hajar (rahimahullah) – the celebrated commentator of Sahih Bukhari- writes the following note on Hadiths which apparently allow males to greet females or vice versa:

‘The permissibility is only when one is safe from fitnah (mischief).’

(Fathul Bari, Hadith: 628)

This note is imperative especially in our age, since Nabi (sallallahu ’alayhi wasallam) has warned that the greatest fitnah for men in my Ummah is women.’

(Sahih Bukhari, Hadith: 5096)

The Fuqaha (Jurists) have ruled that due to fitnah, one should avoid greeting or returning the greeting of a young strange (non Mahram) woman.

(Shami, vol.6 pg.369 and others)

The rulings of the Fuqaha are indeed deduced from the Hadith of Rasulullah (sallallahu ’alayhi wasallam) whether it be a specific Hadith or a holistic understanding from many Hadiths.

The ruling stated above does not change by you stumbling upon one Hadith which states that Nabi (sallalahu’alayhi wasalam) did greet women, as there could be several explanations for this personal practice of Rasulullah (sallallahu’alayhi wasallam).

In fact Imam Halimi (rahimahullah) said:

‘Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam) was saved from fitnah.’

(Fathul Bari, Hadith: 628)

It is absolutely incorrect for one to merely see a Hadith or two on a particular issue, and then deduce one’s own rulings therefrom.

Submit to the Jurists

We as general people are always encouraged to stick to and abide by the rulings of the highly qualified Fuqaha and avoid trying to deduce rulings directly from the Quran or Hadith. The Fuqaha (rahimahumullah) themselves have done us a great favour by already deducing the rulings of Shari’ah from these sources. All we need to do is submit to their conclusions. Unfortunately, many contemporaries fail to understand this rule!

Statements of the Scholars encouraging submission

Imam Malik (rahimahullah) said:

سلموا للأئمة ولا تجادلوهم، فلو كنا كلما جاءنا رجل أجدل من رجل اتبعناه: لخفنا أن نقع في رد ما جاء به جبريل عليه السلام

“Submit to the Imams and don’t argue with them, for if we were to follow every convincing debater, I fear we may end up refuting what Angel Jibrail brought from the skies”

(Atharul Hadith, pg.117)

Imam Sufyan ibn ‘Uyaynah (rahimahullah) said:

التسليم للفقهاء سلامة في الدين

“In conceding to the Fuqaha (Jurists) is the security for our din”

(Atharul Hadith, pg.117)

Imam Sufyan Thawri (rahimahullah) said:

نسلم ما سمعنا، ونكل ما لا نعلم إلى عالمه، ونتهم رأينا لرأيهم

“We follow what we know, and hand over what we do not know to those who do know. We will even question our understanding in favour of theirs”

(Al-Intiqa, pg.265, 266)

These quotations are so glaring in the current conditions. You may read more on this subject here.

And Allah Ta’ala Knows best,

Answered by: Moulana Muhammad Abasoomar

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#32 [Permalink] Posted on 4th April 2018 11:39
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A BENEFIT OF SAYING SALAM WHEN ENTERING THE HOME
Question

I was listening to a bayan where I heard that if you read salam when you enter your house, it will bring barkat to your house. Is there a Hadith to show that?


Answer

This is part of lengthy narration which has been recorded in various Hadith collections, in which Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam) offered many advices to Sayyiduna Anas (radiyallahu ‘anhu) on various issues. The part you question is recorded in Sunan Tirmidhi and is as follows:

O my son! Whenever you enter your house, say salam. This will be a source of Barakah- blessing- for you and your family.

(Sunan Tirmidhi, Hadith: 2698)

Imam Tirmidhi (rahimahullah) has graded this Hadith as sound (hasan)

Read the entire collated version of this Hadith here

And Allah Ta’ala Knows best,

Answered by: Moulana Muhammad Abasoomar

Checked by: Moulana Haroon Abasooma
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#33 [Permalink] Posted on 5th April 2018 03:14
Question:

Is it permissible for a non-mahram woman to give salams to a non-mahram man, and is it permissible for her to reply to his salam?

Answer:

It is not permissible for non-mahram men and women to give each other salam. If one of them does say salam then the other should reply in his/her heart but not audibly. However if one had to speak to the other out of need then it will be permissible to say salam and reply it.

قال العلامة الحصكفي : وفي الشرنبلالية معزيا للجوهرة : ولا يكلم الأجنبية إلا عجوزا عطست أو سلمت فيشمتها لا يرد السلام عليها وإلا لا انتهى

قال العلامة ابن عابدين : ( قوله وإلا لا ) أي وإلا تكن عجوزا بل شابة لا يشمتها ، ولا يرد السلام بلسانه قال في الخانية : وكذا الرجل مع المرأة إذا التقيا يسلم الرجل أولا ، وإذا سلمت المرأة الأجنبية على رجل إن كانت عجوزا رد الرجل عليها السلام بلسانه بصوت تسمع ، وإن كانت شابة رد عليها في نفسه ، وكذا الرجل إذا سلم على امرأة أجنبية فالجواب فيه على العكس ا هـ

وفي الذخيرة : وإذا عطس فشمتته المرأة فإن عجوزا رد عليها وإلا رد في نفسه اهـ وكذا لو عطست هي كما في الخلاصة

رد المحتار 5:236

Ahsanul Fatawa 8/41-42

Translator’s note:

If the non-mahram woman is so old that a person would not be attracted to her then saying salams to her and replying to her salam audibly is permissible.

www.fiqhulislam.com/archives/318


From Shaykh Omar Mohsin in the Shafi Madhab facebook group :


Some basic rulings regarding initiating and replying to the Islamic greeting 'as-salaamu alaikum':

Man --> Man: sunnah [replying is fardh]
Man --> Men: sunnah [replying is fardh kifayah]
Man --> Woman: makruh [replying is haram]
Man --> Women: sunnah [replying is fardh kifayah]
Men --> Woman*: sunnah [replying is fardh]

Woman --> Woman: sunnah [replying is fardh]
Woman --> Women: sunnah [replying is fardh kifayah]
Woman --> Man: haram [replying is makruh]
Women --> Man: sunnah [replying is fardh]
Women --> Men: sunnah [replying is fardh kifayah]

[sources:Fathul-Mueen & al-Adhkaar]

*another post mentions it as follows:
Men --> Woman: mubah, if no fear of fitna [replying is Mubah, if no fear of fitnah]





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#34 [Permalink] Posted on 5th April 2018 03:34
The Messenger said, “Whosoever emulates a people are from among them.” [Abu Dawud #4031] Just as it becomes permissible to do an act which was specific to a particular religion due to it losing its religious significance, and due to its wide spread practise by people of all faiths; conversely, it will become prohibited to do an act which was initially permissible, if it becomes a non-Islamic, religious act. For example, shaking hands with one hand or two hands at the time of mulaaqaat (meeting a fellow Muslim) are both established in the Sunnah. However, the great hadith scholar and jurist, Maulana Rashid Ahmed Gangohi (رحمه الله) states in his commentary on ‘Sunan Tirmithi’, “Since shaking with one hand is the distinctive method of the Colonial Kafir, it is wajib (compulsory) to abandon it.” In other words, one should only shake with both hands since the permissible act of shaking with one hand became a distinctive feature of the kuffar in his era. [Kawkab-ud-Durri Vol.3 Pg.392]

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See Footnotes of fatwa


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#35 [Permalink] Posted on 18th September 2018 11:19
what is the ruling as regards to greeting a person who does not have a beard, a person who is a faasiq in view of shariah. Also, in which books the reference in this regard is to be found?
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#36 [Permalink] Posted on 18th September 2018 11:45
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#37 [Permalink] Posted on 18th September 2018 11:53
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InshaAllah this will give you an indication of how you should behave towards a Muslim (be it even he is dodgy) - This is from a Salafi Q&A

Question
What is the ruling on greeting a Shi’i first with salaam? Especially since I mix with them a great deal and they do not proclaim their beliefs openly or slander (the Sahaabah) etc.

Answer
Praise be to Allaah.
What we say about interacting with the Shi’ah depends on the situation. The innovated beliefs of the Shi’ah vary. If it is something that does not put them beyond the pale of Islam, but is rather regarded as drifting away from the right path, such as their claiming to be devoted to Ahl al-Bayt (the family of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)), then it is permissible to greet them first, because they are Muslims who have committed acts of innovation and sin that do not put them beyond the pale of Islam, and we have to advise them and direct them towards the Sunnah and the truth, and warn them against innovation and sin. If they follow right guidance and accept advice, then praise be to Allaah, for this is what we want. But if they persist in following innovation, then they should be forsaken until they repent to Allaah and give up their innovations and evil ways, because this is a kind of punishment for them. If something good can be achieved by means of this forsaking, or something bad warded off, then it is prescribed in sharee’ah, but if this forsaking will result in something that will increase the evil caused by their innovations, then it is not prescribed.

If you think that not forsaking them will serve a greater interest and that mixing with them and advising them is more useful in opening their hearts to true religion, then there is nothing wrong with not forsaking them, because the aim behind forsaking them is to direct them to the right way and to make them feel that we do not approve of their ways, so that they may come back to true Islam.

If forsaking them will harm the Muslims’ interests and make them cling more firmly to their false ways and put them off the truth, then it is better not to do that, just as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not forsake ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Ubayy ibn Salool, the leader of the hypocrites, because not forsaking him was more in the interests of the Muslims.

But if their bid’ah constitutes kufr, such as cursing the Sahaabah and exaggerating about ‘Ali and Faatimah and al-Hasan and al-Husayn (may Allaah be pleased with them), and they pray to them and seek their help and ask them for support and so on, or their belief that they have knowledge of the unseen etc, which means that they are beyond the pale of Islam, then in this case it is not permissible to greet them first or to befriend them or to eat meat slaughtered by them. Rather we must hate them and disavow ourselves of them, until they believe in Allaah alone, because in this case they are kaafirs and apostates. See Majmoo’ Fataawa Shaykh al-Islam, 28/216-217; Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn Baaz, 4/262-263

It should be noted here that it is not permissible to greet a kaafir first in general terms, such as saying Ahlan wa sahlan (welcome) and so on, because that involves honouring them and venerating them, and the Muslim is higher in status before Allaah, so we should not greet them first. But if they say that to us then we may greet them in the same manner as they greeted us, because Islam is the religion of justice that came to give each person his rights.

Al-Majmoo’ al-Thameen min Fataawa Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 1/48

And Allaah is the source of strength.
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#38 [Permalink] Posted on 18th September 2018 11:55
How is one suppose to greet non-Muslims, and if they greet you, how must you answer them?

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In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,
The word ‘Salam’ is one of the names of Allah Almighty and included in the Islamic greeting ‘Assalamu Alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh’ (May the peace of Allah descend upon you and His Mercy and Blessings). In pre-Islamic Arabia, when people met, they used to greet each other with various greetings. Islam changed and replaced these greetings with this standard form of greeting.

The greeting ‘Assalamu Alaykum’ is commonly translated as ‘peace be upon you’ and it means: May you remain safe from every pain, sorrow and distress.

Qadhi Abu Bakr ibn al-Arabi (Allah have mercy on him) states:

“The word Salam is one the good names of Allah Almighty and ‘Assalamu Alaykum’ means: Allah Almighty is your guardian and caretaker.(Ahkam al-Qur’an)

Due to this aspect of the term “Salam“, in that it has a religious connotation to it and it is one of the names of Allah, it is generally impermissible to use this form of greeting for non-Muslims. One may greet non-Muslims with other forms of greeting such as “good morning”, which they themselves might be more comfortable with.



Imam al-Haskafi (Allah have mercy on him) states:
“A believer may greet a non-Muslim [with the greeting of salam] if he has a need from him otherwise it is prohibitively disliked (makruh tahriman)… Therefore, one should abstain from saying ‘Salam’ to the disbelievers, for the Hadith says: “Do not commence by greeting the Christians and Jews with Salam……” recorded by al-Bukhari… If a Jew, Christian or fire-worshipper greets you, then there is nothing wrong in replying to them, but one should not say more than Wa alaykum.”

Allama Ibn Abidin (Allah have mercy on him) states by commentating on the above:

“It is stated in al-Shir’a [name of a book] that when one greets non-Muslims [and they understand Arabic], one should say: Assalamu ala man ittaba’a al-huda (may peace be upon the guided ones)…” (See: Radd al-Muhtar ala al-Durr al-Mukhtar, 6/412)

Imam al-Bukhari records a Hadith in his Sahih on the authority of Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “If the people of the book (ahl al-Kitab) greet you [by saying Assalamu alaykum], say in reply: Wa alaykum (and also on you).” (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Also in Sahih al-Bukhari, in the ‘Chapter: How to greet a gathering in which there are Muslims and non-Muslims’ a long Hadith has been recorded on the authority of Usama ibn Zaid (Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) passed by a gathering in which there were Muslims, Idolaters and Jews, and the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) greeted them and invited them to Allah….. (Sahih al-Bukhari)

The author of Tafsir al-Mazhari states:

“If a group consists of Muslims, Idolaters and Jews, one should greet them (with Salam), as mentioned in the Hadith recorded by al-Bukhari and Muslim from Usama ibn Zaid. However, the intention should be to say Salam to the Muslims (of that group) so that it does not entail commencing to greet non-Muslims.” (See: Ahkam al-Quran by al-Tahanawi, 2/306)

One of the great Hanafi scholars of the Indian subcontinent, Imam Ashraf Ali al-Tahanawi (Allah have mercy on him) states in his renowned heavenly ornaments:

“If one’s teacher is a non-Muslim, then one should greet him by saying only Assalam (peace) or Assalamu ala man ittaba’a al-huda. One should abstain from using the words Assalamu Alaykum for non-Muslims.” (P. 476)

From the foregoing, we can conclude our discussion in the following points:

1) It is impermissible to greet non-Muslims with the Islamic and Arabic greeting of Assalamu Alaykum.

2) One may greet non-Muslims with the greeting they themselves use.

3) At times of need, such as the hope of one accepting Islam, it would be permissible to greet non-Muslims with the Islamic greeting.

4) If a non-Muslim greets a Muslim with the Islamic greeting, one should respond by saying ‘Alaykum’ or ‘Assalamu ala man ittaba’a al-huda’. While doing so, one should pray that Allah Almighty guide him/her to embrace Islam.

5) If a group consists of Muslims and non-Muslims, then it is permissible to greet them with the Islamic greeting. However, the intention should be to greet the Muslims only.

And Allah knows best

[Mufti] Muhammad ibn Adam
Darul Iftaa
Leicester , UK

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#39 [Permalink] Posted on 18th September 2018 21:59
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what is the ruling as regards to greeting a person who does not have a beard, a person who is a faasiq in view of shariah.


You should say a person who trims his beard less than a fistful is faasiq according to the hanafi madhab, not according to sharia.

Is this because hanafis deem it waajib to grow a beard to such a length, and one who trims his beard shorter than that is omitting a wajib, and purposely and openly omitting a wajib makes you a faasiq?

I am not downplaying the importance of growing the beard, but other madhabs and scholars would not necessarily consider one who does not have a beard to be a fasiq.
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#40 [Permalink] Posted on 19th September 2018 12:29
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It should be fasiq according to deobandi madhab only. Most other Hanafis, specially all the Arab and Turkish ones don't say that fist beard is wajib. There are many other issues where other hanafis differ with deobandis (e.g. meelad, understanding of Bidah, mausoleams etc). The world doesn't revolve around deobandis. The sad thing is that I've come across quite a few deobandis who say that the other Hanafi scholars (and Shafi's, Malikis, etc.) don't know their madhab properly!
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#41 [Permalink] Posted on 19th September 2018 13:30
I would appreciate answer to my question instead of people throwing around deviated ideologies.
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#42 [Permalink] Posted on 20th September 2018 00:23
There you go, a not so uncommon deobandi attitude. If its not according to deobandism, then either all these scholars don't know their madhab or they're all deviated. This self-righteous attitude from both scholars and laymen is what made me look further afield beyond the little deobandi bubble I used to be stuck in.

Lets face it, the vast majority of Hanafis are not deobandis. They hold a different view on many issues. In fact, they tend to agree with the Malikis and Shafi'is on many issues which deobandis don't agree with. Minus deobandis you have a near consensus on many issues, and that includes the beard. How many Arab Hanafis for example say that a fistlength of beard is wajib?

It's not too long ago I remember that the deobandis in general used to say photos (including digital ones) are not permissible or that women shouldn't go to mosques. There was no respect at all for the difference of opinion and no consideration given at all to what all the other non-deobandi Hanafis were saying. There's a word for that: bigotry. But now many deobandis more or less have been forced to admit, at least by practice, that all of them used to be wrong on those issues and the "akabir" had all got it wrong. Admittedly though, even in these two issues there are still some bigots today holding onto their "akabir".

Similarly, it's time the deobandis accept that on many other issues such as the beard, understanding of bidah, meelad etc. that their "akabir" were wrong. Or at least they should accept that they're in the minority so the difference of opinion should be respected.

Thankfully more and more of the modern deobandi scholars are becoming more accepting of difference of opinions and no longer living in the past holding on to their "akabir".
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#43 [Permalink] Posted on 20th September 2018 00:38
Regarding the photo issue, I find it interesting that some only want to accept that there is a difference of opinion regarding the use of digital images, because some Deobandis allow it. At the same time they won't accept that there is a difference of opinion over printed photographs, just because no well known Deobandi allows it. This is despite the fact that other hanafis and other scholars allow printed photographs. So the acceptable difference of opinion is limited to those differences withing the deobandi school.

Regarding the mawlid, I am not supporting it, nor have I ever researched the topic, but I suspect we in the west haven't been given the full picture of which classical scholars supported it, even if it is an innovation. This is not to say that Deobandis must start celebrating the Mawlid, or start supporting it.

And yes some Deobandis , up to today, try to insist and prove that all 4 madhabs ban women from the Masjid just like most Deobandis do today, with the exception of those in North America and Trinidad. Although I have heard that one of the most senior Deobandis in USA said that some in USA also want to prevent women from attending the Masjid. According to him this is unacceptable unless due to specific situations such as lack of space.


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#44 [Permalink] Posted on 20th September 2018 01:24
boo hoo, deobandis this and that. No body cares if you don't want to keep a fistful long beard, keep trousers above ankle, not take part in vanity milad marches and put printed portraits in your living rooms.
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#45 [Permalink] Posted on 20th September 2018 01:25
I would love to have the list of deobandi scholars that you consider modern?
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