My husband and I married in 1999. In 2000, he sent 3 divorce letters pronouncing 'talaaq' thrice on three different occasions to me (April 2000), his own father (cannot confirm date) and my father (August 2000).
My husband admitted to me, my family and his own family that he sent each divorce letter, confirming each letter was an original letter and written and signed in the presence of two witnesses each time.
My husband and I re-married again in 2001 after being told by a Maulana/Alim that we could because the marriage had not been consummated. However I have since been advised that a Fatwa can only be given by a Mufti and re-marriage is only allowed on the basis that no privacy/intimacy is observed/experienced during the time of the first Nikah (Khalwate-Saheeha). My husband and I did spend time in privacy and did have relations but did not consummate the marriage (this was not mentioned when the Maulana/Alim was consulted).
Can you please answer the following questions:
1. Was I divorced in April 2000 or August 2000? I have been advised by Muftis' in Bury and London that divorce took place on reciept of the first divorce letter.
2. When should I have observed my Iddat? 3 months from April 2000 or 3 months from August 2000?
3. What is the Islamic Sharia ruling on the above and confirm if the second Nikah is valid?
4. If the second Nikah is not valid does this mean I am still divorced from my first Nikah and have since been living in haraam?
I have going through a lot of hell in my marriage.I have got to the stage where I feel I want to give up.I have been married for 4 years and have tried everything to keep this marriage alive.
Both families are quite active in the tablighi effort.Last year I took her out for 40 days and this year alhumdulillah we both performed the Hajj.
We quarrel over very small things and then the matter would just flare up.Everytime she threatens me that she will leave with our child. I am constantly put down.I can't say anything to her.
We were on good talking terms and I think she was all OK and happy, that one day she got her father to come,packed her bags and left!I spoke to her the night before and in the morning said sallam to her before going to work .In the afternoon she left.
I have not spoken to her since more than two months.My son is suffering.
She came and took all her belongings one day.
When tried going to see my son I was given heavy abuse.
I need mashwerah and guidance.I feel I am mazloom.what is the punishment for a woman who does this??
Maulana sahub what is the best course of reconcile.Is it just best to move on? I love her from the core of my heart and would want this to work at any cost.
Please also can you give me duas/amaal to counter this great test from Allah swt.I do not see any hope.
Assalam O Alikum,
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